Boys hair in T&T

[dancerboy]

I seen plenty long time pics with the boy chirren in dress and long hair

But plenty people say abt not cutting hair until the child start talking.

And some ah them boys never stop talking once they start, eh.




DANCERBOY

[mrxphatman]

Apologise to all there's a bit missing from the story, my stbx is now residing in England so both my son and daughter were born and raised in the UK. The only contact I have with the kids is at the weekend. This is my sons picture taken a few days ago and below that is the stupid ass response I received from the mother.




For me culturally, Ethan does not have to have his hair cut unless i see fit. If you are having problems managing his hair, I will try to have it corn-rowed before you collect him as far as I possibly can.

If you did any research at all into my culture, you would see that it is normal for boys of ethan's age to wear their hair in a ponytail.

[mrxphatman]

Sorry, meant to say thanks for all the responses I have received from you guys.

[straphanger]

Apologise to all there's a bit missing from the story, my stbx is now residing in England so both my son and daughter were born and raised in the UK. The only contact I have with the kids is at the weekend. This is my sons picture taken a few days ago and below that is the stupid ass response I received from the mother.




For me culturally, Ethan does not have to have his hair cut unless i see fit. If you are having problems managing his hair, I will try to have it corn-rowed before you collect him as far as I possibly can.

If you did any research at all into my culture, you would see that it is normal for boys of ethan's age to wear their hair in a ponytail.

Phatman...i think your issue is the part I highlighted.
there are no cultural reasons per se, apparently (according to her), it's a MOTHER's choice

[vaio]

Apologise to all there's a bit missing from the story, my stbx is now residing in England so both my son and daughter were born and raised in the UK. The only contact I have with the kids is at the weekend. This is my sons picture taken a few days ago and below that is the stupid ass response I received from the mother.




For me culturally, Ethan does not have to have his hair cut unless i see fit. If you are having problems managing his hair, I will try to have it corn-rowed before you collect him as far as I possibly can.

If you did any research at all into my culture, you would see that it is normal for boys of ethan's age to wear their hair in a ponytail.

awww he is soo cute!

[guyguy]

Cutting a boy's hair before the age of 5, makes him dumb. Yours probably was cut at age 4. Ah couldn't resist that pal.



DANCERBOY

[guyguy]

Apologise to all there's a bit missing from the story, my stbx is now residing in England so both my son and daughter were born and raised in the UK. The only contact I have with the kids is at the weekend. This is my sons picture taken a few days ago and below that is the stupid ass response I received from the mother.




For me culturally, Ethan does not have to have his hair cut unless i see fit. If you are having problems managing his hair, I will try to have it corn-rowed before you collect him as far as I possibly can.

If you did any research at all into my culture, you would see that it is normal for boys of ethan's age to wear their hair in a ponytail.

Your son's mother is wrong about the cultural aspect of cutting your son's hair unless he's a Rastafarian, and that is a religious belief, not cultural. However, if I were in your place, I'd leave this issue alone since your son has beautiful hair, and, is it really worth it to create more ill feelings between you and your ex over something so trivial? When your son gets older, he'll decide for himself or peer pressure will cause him to demand from his mother that she cut his hair. But, there are many people who would do almost anything to have hair as beautiful as your son's.

[shield_2006]

ah kinda taken aback eh!

[Sly1]

mrxphatman: If you had not said that this child was a boy, I would have complimented your cute pretty girl.
If the mother wishes to assist you by braiding the child's hair, just thank her for her assistance and let her do the braiding job.
Take a deep deep breath and overlook the long hair. I agree with the other posters that Mother Time will take care of this.
Now that you know that there is NO cultural reasons for not cutting the hair, you have the knowledge and rubbing it in her face could only make matters worse.
The child is 5 and it will be one or 2 years from now when the child will make his choice. Be a good father and role model for him, show him how to live happily and without out hate.

[snowbird]

Sorry, meant to say thanks for all the responses I have received from you guys.

Tell your lady you have learned alot about her culture from joining this forum
.... tell her you also learned what this saying means ...

"Giving you a six for a nine" (trying to put one over on you)

Oh, by the way.... Ethan is a very cute little fella.

[Sly1]

Oh NO....do not tell Ms Ex where you are getting your information Just use your new information and have fun. You might relate better with the little one.

You know we should congratulate you for having the good sense to get here and ask questions.
CONGRATULATION mrxphatman

[guyguy]

Sly1,
Mrs. Ex might already be a member of ttol.

[Sly1]

GUYGUY: well lets hear from her. Would she be that brave? If he were to tell her where he got his info she just my sign up and read up I hope he comes often and chat with us so he can learn some of the culture, lingo and all of our fun stuff which he can use when he has to take care of the 2 children.

[Falcon]

Let she cane row he head.
Then on the weekend when he by you, take him to the barber.
She can't do nowt after that.

[vaio]

look what falcon encouraging!

but after it cut, there really is nothing she can do.

[snowbird]

look how allyuh 'chookin fire' (mrxphatman = stirring up trouble )


hang in there ..... we will ....Trini - ize you yet

[Mr Majik]

Let she cane row he head.
Then on the weekend when he by you, take him to the barber.
She can't do nowt after that.

And when she complain about culture and whatnot, tell her, "doh mamaguy me woman!"

That is to say, "don't try to make me look like a fool with your nonsense."

[snowbird]

Now let's give it to him in small doses majik ..... the last thing we need him doing is ....trying to 'analyze' how we came up with those terms

because if he does..... mamaguy could appear to him to mean.... a boy with long hair (mama = hair as long as his mother, guy = boy)

boy de local vernacular eh easy nah

[kemist]

Mrxphatman:

There are religious reasons if your ex is Rastafarian or Muslim. Otherwise, it is based on superstition and has become a societal norm here in T&T.

[kemist]

That's me when I was about 4 or 5 with my mom. Dunno why she didn't cut it until I was five. As far as I know, it wasn't a cultural thing.

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awwwh what a cute little girl you were
(somehow i imagining you with a mustache in that pic )

[Aurea]

not that i know of phatman...

although, my brother did have long hair up until he was about 5. my parents cut it after a little girl asked to see his cookolooks to prove that he was a boy

OMG!!!!!! You real make me laugh they boi! All I know is in indian/hindu culture here in trini d ole ppl say doh cut children hair until they can talk otherwise the wont be able to talk well or some such thing. Other ppl do it cause they like how it looks. Hmmm, wonder when I will cut Rahul's hair......

Aurea

[guyguy]

awwwh what a cute little girl you were
(somehow i imagining you with a mustache in that pic )

[mrxphatman]

LOOOOL, you lot make me die, I do understand some of what you are saying as Ive been to Trini a couple of times, "six for a nine" I know what that is and some others. I will be back here from time to time to learn the lingo as I don't want her pulling the wool over my eyes. She isn't Muslim and he's not a Rastafarian so it's not done because of that but many thanks all of you for enlightening me.

[Mr Majik]

After all this time has passed I thought you were coming to tell us about the trip to the barber shop

[SocaSim]

My godson was a gorrrrgeous baby. As he entered the toddler stage, his hair went from a full MJ Afro to hair down his back. My best friend didn't cutit until he was 7,8 yrs old. People did mistake him for a girl because he was so pretty, like guy guy's baby pic. It did bother Tryel being mistaken for a girl though. His mom would ponytail it or cornrow it. When he got his hair cut, I was kindah sad, however it had to happen. Know his is so dang handsome I can't stand it! Lol