Respect

[kayt]

What is your definition of respect?

If someone demands respect do you automatically think they are rude or agressive instead of assertive? With the USA and South Africa civil rights movements the oppressed had to take action since just working hard being themselves didn't even allow them human rights.

It is possible that sometimes the word 'respect' is misused. Do you notice this?

[serenity]

Kayt, u ask some good questions there. There has been some discussion on the issue previously in this thread. I think it was titled 'Should men maintain..'


viewtopic.php?f=10&t=477 (http://www.ttonline.org/forum/viewtopic.php?f=10&t=477)

[kayt]

Yes I've read it Serenity hence my questions.

[cocoa]

My definition of respect is to respect your self and others will respect you.

[vaio]

respect is given to all ppl regardless of who they are....you cannot demand respect from others, it is gained...

[kayt]

My definition of respect is to respect your self and others will respect you.

Definitions of respect can be subjective. My idea of respect and your idea of respect may not match. I'd go for being polite (hoping I'm viewed as being polite) on meeting people for the first time. It's like the phrase "make your self at home", when you have guests staying at your place. As a host you aim to make the guest feel comfortable but there is an unspoken rule that the visitor knows that they are not in their own home so being truely at home may cause some upset. For instance if you've invited a naturist over. If they were to truely make themselves at home they'd start striping and walk around your place stark naked.

I went to an Eritrean children's party and was suprised that they served all the adults food first before they served the children. That's being respectful in their culture. Can you imagine what parents would say if they took their children to a party in TnT and the children were served last?

[Harry Williamn]

Respect is something one must earn ...one is not automatically born into respect because respect is freely given by one person to another.

A clear example is the LAW:

Do you fear the consequences of breaking the law or do you respect the LAW ?

Some people who fear the LAW ( by fear the LAW I mean that they fear the Consequences if they are caught braking the Law) so they obey the LAW out of fear. Example. The light is red and you know it means STOP. It is afore day morning out in the country side.You look up and down and all around and there is not a soul in sight. You are in a hurry, and the light is on red and it seems forever.You know you can break the red light and get away with it, and you break and go on your way.

You did it because you fear the LAW. If you respected the LAW you will have waited out of respect for the LAW.

Respect for the LAW must be given freely and that is the difference between a Law abiding TNT Republican and some people.We Respect the law and the Constitution of TNT hence we respect the election results and we respect our Government officials both majority and minority.....and that is respect.

[kayt]

Yes respect is learnt. What happens if you only respect those that you consider have respect for themselves? People learn different ways of respect or livestyles. There are those that consider some women dressing in short skirts and skimpy tops as disrespectful and may treat them with distain. It might never occur to them that some of these women may be accustomed to dressing that way, some may see it as celebrating their sexuality which they are not ashamed of or some haven,t learnt how to respect themselves and have self esteem problems. There's also the guys that dress scantily or go for the gansta look that others may interpret as not being respectful to themselves. This whole respect thing is tricky. Is this a reason to be too judgemental? Are those that don't live by your rules beneath you?

[Harry Williamn]

The gist of the matter above is this: You earn respect from another person even yourself because respect is given freely to those whom we belive have earned it.

How many people on this FORUM have not given respect to the wishes of the majority of TNT Republicans by respecting their choice of Majority and Minorty candidates in the last general elections ?

[lexbarker]

Always make it a TARGET for people to respect you. Practice the Golden Rule.