how do u feel about remaining friends with an ex spouse

[dancerboy]

How do you feel about maintaining a platonic relationship with your ex spouse or significant other.

[Falcon]

I suppose you mean ex-significant other as well right?
Well, why did you two split in the first place then? Wasnt it an issue of trust?

[Solachica]

You mean like demi moore and bruce willis?

I haven't seen much people break up and remain friends. Most times you don't want to see tht person again.
Some becos of kids they wud try to maintain some sorta contact.

[vaio]

it might be kinda weird....esp if you both have other ppl in your lives....

i can see it happening because of the kids though....

[cocoa]

I hope i get this right, here goes. In first place you married the girl/guy for love but tings did not work out for you both which ended in divorce. But does the love you both had died? And that my friend is the million dollar question.

[sheppy]

i'm on good terms with my exes (atleast i think so..well maybe except 1) and my present relationships at the time have never had a problem with it...
we moved on amicably..and we mature enuff to keep a safe distance but doh have to avoid each other at fetes, social gatherings etc...if dey need something and i could help i will..an vice versa...

[vaio]

cocoa....sometimes it gets so bitter that the very intense love becomes intense hate.....i've seen it happen many, many times.....

[lexbarker]

When a marriage is not working it is better for them to depart on good terms. Once the fight starts It is the lawyers that laugh all the way to the bank. I know 2 cases where the lawyers were "promoting" divorce and telling their clients they will take the other side to the cleaners but in the end they both get cleaned. I have seen so many times where separated couples having financial difficulties because lawyer fees have eaten up all their nest money. Some co-workers had already planned extended working years past retirement age, a time when they should be enjoying the golden age.

[sylvestter]

i doh think i could have an amicable relationship with any ex. if we done, we done. small and shallowminded maybe, but such is life.

[peanut]

My ex and I are very good friends now and we get along better than when we were married. I suppose somewhere along the way he became Americanized and realized that having a woman as yuh wife don't make her his property, and she did not give up the right to be her own person or the right to her independence.

[Scorpio]

It's never a good idea to try to remain friends with an ex. :|

[KFCSpicy]

Too many exes to worry about. But to make it short I have no problems with remaining friends with an ex-sig-other. Too much energy to slash car tyre and send hate emails and venomous texts :?

:mrgreen: not that I ever did those things much. :(

[peanut]

It's never a good idea to try to remain friends with an ex. :|

Why do you say that Scorp?

I have 1 ex-husband to whom I was married for 28 years, and with whom I have children and 1 grand child. I have 1 ex-fiance Winston [Gypsy] Peters and 1 other who is member of the Gov't. I am good friends with them and Winston is still my very best friend.

[KFCSpicy]

You was engaged to de Mighty Jerry Curl? :o

Ok :?

[peanut]

Yeah, I was in '73. He is one of the nicest, sweetest and most wonderfully perfect gentlemen alive today. Unfortunately at that time I was not ready to leave T&T to live in the US. He left with my Blessings. He now has a terrific and wonderful lady as his wife. Marva is a genuinely beautiful person on the inside and I couldn't be happier for him.

[KFCSpicy]

Wait is not Gypsy I picturing nah is de Sugar Aloes one. Sorry dey Pnut. Gypsy is a nice man from what I hear and see so far. Cyah say bad bout him. :) 73? the year of queens :D

[Scorpio]

pnut, bad experiences on my path led me to that conclusion, but I am happy that you have remained frineds with your ex, and Gypsy is a good fella. ;)

[Jenny]

Im friends with a few of my ex's....most splits happened cause i ended up leaving the country...this is the 4th country i;ve lived in inc. Trinidad....so there was never any bad feelings ...i left cause of my job...

[Scorpio]

...this is the 4th country i;ve lived in inc. Trinidad....

Nice to know I'm not the only Nomad on the forum... :D

.....to those who really think it's a good idea to remain frineds with an ex, I have a question for you, are you willing to listen to your ex talk about problems in their current relationship, and are you prepared to give advice on the same when asked ?

For me that would just be too weird... :?

[peanut]

Wait is not Gypsy I picturing nah is de Sugar Aloes one. Sorry dey Pnut. Gypsy is a nice man from what I hear and see so far. Cyah say bad bout him. :) 73? the year of queens :D


OMG, Sugar Aloes. :lol: :lol: Nah girl, I like real gentlemen, and if I knew then what I know now, I would have held on to Gypsy.

[Jenny]

I've been to one of my ex's weddings! And I got a friend who's current husband was the best man at her ex's wedding... :o

[KFCSpicy]

:) oh ohhhh Pnut he dat sweet?

Well done gf. Look doh laff at de mighty jeri curl nah reallllllllllllllllll woman does run him down still. :D

[peanut]

Yeah Gyul he is in all the ways that matters ;)

I know, but ah tink is the de Aloes sweet voice and he money they after, he eh all dat :P

[Scorpio]

Wait is not Gypsy I picturing nah is de Sugar Aloes one. Sorry dey Pnut. Gypsy is a nice man from what I hear and see so far. Cyah say bad bout him. :) 73? the year of queens :D


OMG, Sugar Aloes. :lol: :lol: Nah girl, I like real gentlemen, and if I knew then what I know now, I would have held on to Gypsy.

Pnut, if was Sugar Aloes you did like so much I woulda really have to change meh opinion of yuh... :D

[KFCSpicy]

Any man who have a geri curl on he five chest hairs cud never be all dat. :(

[vaio]

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