women who expect men to pay for everything...

[sylvestter]

because you name "man" you have to pay for everything.

if we going to a fete, you buy your ticket and buy mine too.
if we going to dinner, you paying for everything.
if we going out, you buying a dress for me to wear.

what's up with that?

it amazes me that this attitude exists.
discuss...

[Solachica]

Am not like tht. I does find it hard to take money from people.
Been working a long time now so got financial independence early.
I also don't tell people I want this or tht as gifts. Maybe thts why I don't know wht I want for Christmas, Birthday etc from my best friend when he asks for suggestions.

[Scorpio]

I had both extremes, the one who refuses to allow me to pay for anything and the one who expects me to pay for everything... :roll:

[vaio]

i prefer the sharing cost method....you pay half and i pay half.....i ent like no cheap ppl and am also not a cheap person.....i wld only not pay if the other person say they insist.....

[SSDD]

i've seen this behaviour in other ppl and really despise it. same way you looking to save a buck so is he. me and my bf used to actually have falling outs over that cause he find i paying for too much thing. lol a time ipaid the maxi fair and he asked me if i trying to make him look bad. u gotta find a balance. if the person insists you dont pay that is one thing but oh gorm at least offer sometimes nah

[Solachica]

We do the I pay now you pay next time. Or who has money pays. Works so far. I compromise ah lil bit. :lol:
Wht abt people who know u paying and becos of tht order the most expensive stuff or choose the most expensive place to go.

[IN-A-QUANDRY]

If u date a venezuelan, it is likely that u as a man will have to pay all. When I was dating my venezuelan friend, a an average date could cost as much as $350.00 with her.

[sheppy]

I pay because i can afford to...if i cuddn't then i might be inclined to share date expenses...

but i appreciate a woman that atleast offers...or sometime even insists...I will let you pay if you insist...
well dat is if you can insist more than me ;)

what i can't tolerate is woman that know u's pay for everything and take you for granted...like u is santa claus...lobster and steak everytime yuh eating out...

[vaio]

i've heard men complain about women like that sheppy....they don't last very long...

[Solachica]

:mrgreen:
women take advantage of men who free to spend their money and maybe men do same also.
But as they say...nothing is free. :twisted:

[vaio]

i know some women who get guys to buy outfits to go parties, pay for the ticket, drinks, meals, etc....

[SSDD]

in all honesty vaio i cannot stand women like that they just grate me the wrong way. i mean i have a friend for her bday he bf bought her outfit n shoes as part of his gift to her. all well and fine but i've seen others bold face a=go and demand money for clothes frrom d man and is like........... don't u work and draw your own pay?

[vaio]

gosh yea SSDD...and these women are soo bold face that they think that they are entitled to it!!!!! Of course i know that the men wld expect something in return...

[SSDD]

well from what i've seen those girls dont mind the payment cause that how they figure they controlling the man.

when my bf went and bought me a phone when mine started to give trouble i had a serious problem accepting it cause in my world you buy what you want/need. you don't expect other ppl to do it for you. i could never sit comfortable like that. it's a strange concept to me

[vaio]

^^me too... :|

[lexbarker]

If a woman expects a man to pay for everything then she should not be surprised if the man demands more than a kiss after the outing.

[Scorpio]

If a woman expects a man to pay for everything then she should not be surprised if the man demands more than a kiss after the outing.


Sounds like the world's oldest profession. :?

[vaio]

^^but , is the woman obligated to kiss the man after he has spent all that money...??

[Scorpio]

^^^Vaio, he said "more than a kiss"

[vaio]

^^^Vaio, he said "more than a kiss"

oh...but she is not obligated to anything....so a meal gives him the ok to expect more than just a kiss.....

[Solachica]

Woman and man does pimp out themselves.
Is like long time with the maxi conductor and the young girls. The girls getting free drop and kfc and the conductor getting sex.

[vaio]

wow... :shock:

[lexbarker]

Lets see if we can put a value on expectations:

1 Kiss = 1 coke
Kiss + = coke, burger and may be fries.
Kiss ++ = all of the above and a movie.
anything more than that he owns her.

[Trinique]

We do the I pay now you pay next time. Or who has money pays. Works so far. I compromise ah lil bit. :lol:
Wht abt people who know u paying and becos of tht order the most expensive stuff or choose the most expensive place to go.

oh gosh, I have a friend like that, we went Red Lobster and because she knew I was paying she ordered the seafood feast, lobster, crab tail AND shrimp. I swear it WAS the most expensive meal on the menu, greedy arse, no wonder she so fat, ah never offer to do this again :roll:

man I could never be so low class

[vaio]

Lets see if we can put a value on expectations:

1 Kiss = 1 coke
Kiss + = coke, burger and may be fries.
Kiss ++ = all of the above and a movie.
anything more than that he owns her.

lex is that like a code for men or something .....cause for women -

meal, drink, movie and drive to and from - nothing shld be expected.....

[Trinique]

I don't mind paying half the time, in fact I offer to pay often but he always insist he pays, sometimes I accept, sometimes I have to insist I pay this time. He got me an expensive Camera for my bday two weeks ago and I wouldn't lie, it's what I wanted :D he knew this, but I would do the same for him :mrgreen:

[vaio]

^^you wld do the same so there is a meeting half way there.....

[Mysty]

OK ... for those who want to date Venezuelan chics...... expect to fork out the dough.... most of them are students and do not have much money.

This thing that if a man buys a meal that you have to expect to give him more than a kiss... I never hear about that!

If I want to give more than a kiss I will be the one to decide, a man buying a meal for me does not dictate that!

[lexbarker]

Lets see if we can put a value on expectations:

1 Kiss = 1 coke
Kiss + = coke, burger and may be fries.
Kiss ++ = all of the above and a movie.
anything more than that he owns her.

lex is that like a code for men or something .....cause for women -

meal, drink, movie and drive to and from - nothing shld be expected.....
Yuh know, some men could go bankrupt without enjoying themselves.

[peanut]

I have never and will never expect a man to pay for everything. Even if I am in a marriage/relationship I would share the cost and I put no limits on the amount.

[KFCSpicy]

i've heard men complain about women like that sheppy....they don't last very long...

That is what u feel Vi. I am a person that when a man asks me out he better have de cash and resources to back up he very forward and ambitiou offer of a date. If u say would u like to meet up for a coffee I go pay my way but let's face it most men have agendas so when one of these types comes along with offers of going out we know that in their mind they doing HP with yuh body ahready. :D

You have men who look at it as a masculine thing so they will always pay as it is important to them to do so. I like them kinds cause I have better use for my pounds papi. It have men who bad mind bard and eh go take u out no way where anything costs above a tenner. Dem so cyah take me no way or even talk to me....ah doese sense them from de word go!

I am totally for men paying for me but I am also independant of man and woman so I cud afford to pay my own way without assumptions that the man will. I earn that a hundred times over. I had one guy I asked out and when we got to the club i paid for me and when we were checking our coats he gave me back the money I was like what dis for and he said he doh want me paying cause he and me out. Drinks paid for all night by him too, he tail lucky I cud only drink 3 red bull and then I does be good or he would have run out of cash quick. I do feel for men and the burden they bear but hey...tuff! Deal with it and man it up and stop complaining if u cyah afford to date then stay home and play pet the salami by yuhself.

[Mysty]

It is simple, if a man invites me out, I expect him to pay.

If I do the inviting, I do not mind picking up the tab.


If I am in a relationship, I do not expect my partner to pay for all. That is no fair.

At the same time women has to beware. It have some "wutless" man out there who has no qualms about women paying for all and they bole face about it. Dem so you have to stay clear off... Believe me you cud spot dem for a mile!

[vaio]

Lets see if we can put a value on expectations:

1 Kiss = 1 coke
Kiss + = coke, burger and may be fries.
Kiss ++ = all of the above and a movie.
anything more than that he owns her.

lex is that like a code for men or something .....cause for women -

meal, drink, movie and drive to and from - nothing shld be expected.....
Yuh know, some men could go bankrupt without enjoying themselves.

why because "enjoyin" means ....? without jumpin into the sack there is not enjoyment.. :?

[KFCSpicy]

why u even responding to that drivel? Yuh vagina is not something u have to barter to enjoy an evening out :shock: men too bold and that is not we doing is rules created by men for men. so dey needs to deal with it or stay home and leave people girl chirren alone or go to woodford and pay for it.

[kemist]

dating is one ting, i dont mind paying.
relationship is another thing, i prefer equality, not a leech.

I dont mind paying to learn as much as i can when dating, because if i end up in a relationship with the wrong one, i know i'll end up 'paying' much more.

Since i ent no big shot, i always look for a down to earth woman and choose the venue for liming within my budget. If she has the materialistic attitude, i'll simply put her in my past and move on because i know i can get better.

[vaio]

^^sometimes kemist things are not that black and white with some ppl...when emotions get in the way of your clear judgement....we end up doing stupid things.... :|

[KFCSpicy]

or maybe he needs to go find someone cheaper and with low expectations? what he mean by better? just cause a woman expects certain things she is no good? steupse.

[KFCSpicy]

:shock: ^^^^ and this is allowed? Since when? :x

[Solachica]

Now tht is spamming ent. :roll:

[KFCSpicy]

Thank yuh, lemmeh see what the almighty 03 will do.

Why u up so early dread?

[vaio]

or maybe he needs to go find someone cheaper and with low expectations? what he mean by better? just cause a woman expects certain things she is no good? steupse.

to each his own k...

[KFCSpicy]

^^^sighhhhhhhhhhh...ain't that the truth. My mother used to say "corbeaux doh eat sponge cake" :roll: (i personally hate to hear dat eh but...)

Monkey know what tree to climb and every bread have they cheese and all that. :?

[vaio]

^^k sometimes we have ppl with mauby money and champagne taste and then there are others who are the other way around...champagne money and mauby taste...

[KFCSpicy]

hey leave meh mabels mauby alone. Aye jenny, yuh have mauby by u ah wah? :?

[serenity]

I am one of those women.
My bf paid for everything on dates. The sad thing is, it never occurred to me to even offer to pay. I never saw it as taking advantage of him. i dont think he saw it that way either. In fact, I dont think either of us gave it a second thought.
I spent loads of money on him in other ways. I'd randomly buy gifts or clothes that I know he'd like. It was during that relationship I discovered that a tee-shirt can cost 250.00. :shock:

I suppose I would rethink my position on the money thing. Its not that I stingy eh, is just an assumption on my part that the guys pay. Bec they always have. Is like buying flowers, it wouldnt ever occur to me (until jus now) to buy flowers for a guy (unless he REAL into flowers). But I expect flowers to be bought for me at one point or other.

[KFCSpicy]

^^^ so true. But I like doing things for my victims...ah mean men...ah mean boyfriend. (whew) :)

But that's just me I like seeing the look of pleasure or appreciation when they get stuff from me without a reason. :lol:

[sheppy]

lol....i had a good laugh at all dis barter yuh vagina talk..and how a coke = 1 kiss...:lol:

but is ok fuh d man to pay yuhnow allyuh...just doh take it fuh granted...

. Poor guy who knows how far he living drive up he car to yuh house and wait fuh yuh to get ready while making strained conversation wit yuh grumpy fadder and put on a/c fuh yuh to feel nice while watchin his gas meter to make sure allyuh eh shut down on d beetham.. :D den carefully calculate how much he cud spend on a date, while trying to be suave and charming, witty and ambitious and all that good stuff d woman does be writing down on their lists of desirable traits ;)...and makes it look effortless while he pays with his brand new credit card.
evening dun...he drops you home (and quickly takes off the a/c as to conserve gas ;) ) you jump out d car give a half-hearted - "thanks" (because you doh owe him nuttin after all) and go in yuh house.

tsk tsk...but then again women get periods...and have to give birth...so das dey right... hear them roar :roll:

[kemist]

or maybe he needs to go find someone cheaper and with low expectations? what he mean by better? just cause a woman expects certain things she is no good? steupse.

whatever a woman's expectations are, i expect them to understand the concept of having discretion, so by 'better' i mean some1 who can use their discretion. If she cant then she certainly is not relationship type material for me.

[lexbarker]

I think a woman should make her point clearly from the start, "No matter how much you spend, I am definitely not giving it to you. So, do we go out or not?"
By making it clear, the guy will decide whether to waste his money for nothing or just call off the date.

[kemist]

lol lex.

we forgetting the 'new car' factor tho. Chics dig cars, its programmed in their genes somehow. With a new car, de time it takes to accelerate from zero to sixty is de same time it takes for the panties to drop 8-)

gosh ah know i getting boof fuh that one :lol:

[lexbarker]

lol lex.

we forgetting the 'new car' factor tho. Chics dig cars, its programmed in their genes somehow. With a new car, de time it takes to accelerate from zero to sixty is de same time it takes for the panties to drop 8-)

gosh ah know i getting boof fuh that one :lol:
Yes I know, they love new car. In that case in addition to giving it to you willingly with a big smile they should pay you good cash for the privilage to be seen in one.

[KFCSpicy]

^^^ :roll: all yuh have new car just so all yuh cud get woman...pityful...most men have nice car and living wid parents or in shacks I good. It eh have no chasis brain here so when I see a car I does not be impressed all that much cause my female friends all own vehicles or two along with their homes and businesses and it eh have a man on this earth that cud get me to shag him just because of he ride.

Nice car equals small peegy mentality or no personality at all. So keep yuh car ah hope it gives ya a phenomenal b.j. and the ride ah yuh life. ;)

[Solachica]

I have a friend who does think all fellers driving Civics are hot. I does just watch she and :roll:

[KFCSpicy]

^^^is dem so does make de rest ah dem so think de ress ah we so dohtish. I cyah stand silly women u know? :shock:

[SSDD]

stueps if i go with a fella for his car is cause i want the car to go on my own beat if he there or not doh matter.

chicks dig fellas with cars stuepsssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss sssssss

[lexbarker]

So K, what car you want to be seen in, Mercedes or Lexus?

[KFCSpicy]

the one I purchase lexxy baby.

That won't be a car it will be a truck or a Escalade Jeep. ;)

[Flaggs]

Aye Catboy, they do that because they think you are still a virgin. Once you prove yourself an rock they world, they will pay for you. :D

[KFCSpicy]

:roll:

[vaio]

Aye Catboy, they do that because they think you are still a virgin. Once you prove yourself an rock they world, they will pay for you. :D

???!!!! :shock:

[Solachica]

Aye Catboy, they do that because they think you are still a virgin. Once you prove yourself an rock they world, they will pay for you. :D
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[sheppy]

^^^ dis man is ole skool

[vaio]

^^more like dumb schooll....

[KFCSpicy]

lmao lmao lmao. :lol:

[cocoa]

Hear what some of us (men) face in foreign, this is going to freak you out. I had this girl friend who i visited one or twice a year. One day when i was visiting her she told me that she wanted me to stay with her and that she would pay for food, clothing, lodging...ect but if i did not then don't bother to come back. Guess what? I never went back and that was the end of that.

I mean all i wanted was to have a girl friend and sometimes pay for something at least. i guess she was just desperate for a guy i don't know.

[Solachica]

She probably wanted to dominate. :lol: Then you wud be to her biding.

[sheppy]

wait u pass up a sugar mama?

*whacks cocoa over the head with a mallet*

[KFCSpicy]

So he tail dohtish. What race was she Cocoa? I need to put something here in meh mind to rest.

[cocoa]

wait u pass up a sugar mama?

*whacks cocoa over the head with a mallet*

Na man Sheppy, like Sola said she may have had a hidden agenda, buh dis i know for sure the girl wanted it more than twice a year hahaha joke

[cocoa]

So he tail dohtish. What race was she Cocoa? I need to put something here in meh mind to rest.

Ah doe wah geh into race here KFC cause that might just spoil everyting so lets' just say she was one horney woman. Besides i just love my own independence. :mrgreen:

[KFCSpicy]

that kinda answer meh question but it was wisely put Cocoa. Knowing this forum it wuddah go into all kinda thing.

[cocoa]

that kinda answer meh question but it was wisely put Cocoa. Knowing this forum it wuddah go into all kinda thing.

Leh meh puh it dis way KFC, if it had been you by the look of your avatar i wudda leh yuh buy me a drink (joke) :mrgreen:

[KFCSpicy]

ehem.

That is another thread. :D

[iiinharmony]

Solachica gurl,I tell you yuh hah to make sure "dem" eh corrupt the TNT men down here yes.

My Father always taught me that when a man wnat wife it go cost him and if he is a man he go take care ah he woman and always make sure he woman have everything she need so she doh hah to aks nobody fer noting!

Ah man have to hah self respect and self respect mean he eh want the woman to support he financially and pay for he food etc and please, when I go on a date with a Lady I am a gentleman and I make sure that whatever she want i go pay for it and if I cyar do dat...then me ehe go on no date.

Solachica gurl " dem" foreign woman and dem have a different weird kinda scene. They does go in what dey call dutch ( not TNT) and they always arguing about who go pay and about money and all that kind ah ting but a gentleman is always the one who bears the cost for a date.
That is we old fashioned TNT way ?

No way it is the TNT way.

Ah no some ah all yuh meet some real cheapy and hard luck man but they does go to KFC and eat the yankee mess but when you meet ah gentleman he does take yuh down Chag and up at the Hilton and up to Salybia to dine and wine so all the chpidness dey talking yuh hah to know it is foreign.

You see men so scarce over dey because they always in some kind a war killing out they young men and then in de states de jails full ah so much a dey young men that de female piopulation out number the male by leaps an bounds and den all dem Expatriates come up dey now so man hard to get! So that is why dey hah to try to buy a man with money but the ting is dey ah have plenty so they always have some kecth in dey nen nen man who cyar pay for nutting...

Here in TNT the friends and fellow professionals with whom I does lime with ...you cyar lime with we if you have a woman pay for your arse ..yuh mad ah wat ...we is man and we pay with grace and panash for the lady who graces us with her prescence on a date etc.

Even when we go out for a company group lunch it is the men who do the tipping and the paying.

The women ain't broke solachica you no that it is just our way!
So all all yuh cheap broke arse men get a life and stop dating and go back to school and get a vareer which will pay big bucks so yuh could have nice woman and pay!

[bluenote492000]

Look my mom grew me up old fashioned so if a guy ask me out he paying. I would find it really weird if on a date he ask me to pay for something. I’m a decent girl I don’t look to buss a man pocket but the fact of the matter is I actually want to be the girl on the date, paying for stuff is what you do with your girlfriends not a date. And some man just plain dotish, they so want to impress a woman and get into she panties they take them to an expensive restaurant and do all the wine and dine thing expecting panties to hit the floor after the date and when it doesn’t is the woman fault, the tricky b@#*&! Just because the man have thoughts going through he head he expect the woman to read them?! How is she responsible for you driving to Stupidville and taking up residence hmm? If we’re in a relationship I wouldn’t mind paying for stuff or buying things for him but my blood does boil when a man ask he girlfriend for money. Ok yuh going through hard times I wouldn’t mind helping but when you working and week in week out you asking me for money that does get me vex.

[peanut]

Blue, I am also very old fashioned, but one who is very independent. Me eh want no man paying for nutten for me. If he is a significant other and he allow me to buy things for him then I cool with him paying for me.

[serenity]

You know, I'm surprised that ppl see independence being related to allowing someone to take you out or bear the expenses of the relationship. I'd like to think I have both. I dont NEED the fella to buy me dinner. I can buy my own dinner but I also dont feel the need to make a statement of independence by insisting I pay for my half of the bill. I see it as two entirely separate things. Dependence implies a powerlessness. And I've never seen myself being powerless in the relationship, even though I never paid for anything on a date. In fact, if u want to tie in power, I think for an independant woman to concede to a guy actually treating her to an outing is a privilege for him! Bec it shows that she likes u enough to relinquish some of that power to u ie, by allowing u to pick the venue and pick up the tab.

[sheppy]

I think for an independant woman to concede to a guy actually treating her to an outing is a privilege for him!

*cough* *choke* *dies of laughter*

serenity....nah ....dat is a stretch...

[serenity]

:mrgreen:
Ok, but ah mean, if it have all these women out there who feel so strongly about independence, then for one to say, ok, u pay the bill, dais a huge leap of faith! He should be honoured!

[peanut]

When I say independent this is what I mean; freedom from control or influence of another or others.

Why should they pay the Bill when I am quite capable of paying MY own bill, and after dinner you go your way, I go mine; I owe you no favors and you owe me none?

[serenity]

When I say independent this is what I mean; freedom from control or influence of another or others.

Why should they pay the Bill when I am quite capable of paying MY own bill, and after dinner you go your way, I go mine; I owe you no favors and you owe me none?

Then how is that a relationship Peanut?
And why does him paying the restaurant bill automatically mean that u are in his debt afterwards? If paying the bill means to u both that u owe him something for that then therein lies the problem.

[peanut]

Blue, I am also very old fashioned, but one who is very independent. Me eh want no man paying for nutten for me. If he is a significant other and he allow me to buy things for him then I cool with him paying for me.

Sola, hence the reason I said this ^^

[Solachica]

Oh gosh peanut I find you calling my name plenty times in threads but is not me you refering to. :lol:

[peanut]

Shucks girl, meh brains getting so old now eh, and me eh have no more meds ... forgive me eh .. ah din mean it :oops:

[lexbarker]

I think for an independant woman to concede to a guy actually treating her to an outing is a privilege for him!
It is only a privilege if you hand over the Ting to him.

[KFCSpicy]

lexx yuh muss be single ah feel yuh madam made up or she doh know yuh real views on things. gimmeh she number so ah cudd tell on yuh ;)

[peanut]

Snitch :roll:

[KFCSpicy]

:D he better grease meh palm if he doh want to sleep in de gallery every night from now on. :D

[peanut]

Vaseline go do? :shock: :shock:

[KFCSpicy]

ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww no it would not :shock: and for any other body who might suggest other things too I meant cash eh? or some royal castle chicken wid fries. ;)

[peanut]

Traitor!!!!! RCC ah tort yuh wouldda say KFC :mrgreen:

[KFCSpicy]

hee heee hee :D

[Peechingpang]

If a woman expects a man to pay for everything then she should not be surprised if the man demands more than a kiss after the outing.


Ha ha!
But on a serious note ive gone out with men who refused to let me pay for anything when i offer to do so. But i always make sure i have meh vex money! I dont have no problem paying for things in a relationship or accepting, just as long they aint take meh in front of judge judy to claim back all they give me. :D

[secowis]

If a man is taking me on a first date.. you bet he going to pay. Not for my clothes, but for the food. After that if I working then we do the I pay you pay tingie. Trinique you right... I would ah never offer to pay for anything for that woman again... that not only show greediness, but a lack of consideration for the other person.. That is one thing I cognizant of when someone offers to buy me something. The man who marries her better watch out.

[greall]

Hmmm....interesting topic

I'm not so much on the dating scene again but I can remember a rather expensive date who thought that I was made out of plastic.Maybe I'd erred earlier when I opted to pay for most of the stuff when we went out but after a while I got bored and irritated and let that one go.

It's always a problem with me:if I buy expensive then I'm showing off but if I buy 'down market' then I'm looking 'cheap'... :roll:

These days,we keep it simple and hang out after Saturday classes as the ever-increasing and ever-present school fees take priority now.

[sylvestter]

*bump*

[travelbug]

The rules say that the one who does the inviting pays the bill. I think on a first date, if it's a romantic date, I don't mind if the guy pays. However, if it's just dinner with a guy friend, I prefer going dutch (ie paying for what you ordered).

Back to the romantic date, if the same guy asks me out again, I think I'd want to contribute to the date. It's two people and if it's dinner and a movie, I prefer paying for the movies and snacks. I have a guy friend, a true gentleman, paid for everything even though we're just friends. But that's how he is, I had to explain to him that I didn't feel comfortable and to please let me pay for something during our many evenings out. Finally he agreed to let me pay for the movies and snacks. He'd pay for dinner and get me to and from home. It actually became a comfy routine with no hassle.

One other guy, total loser, always complaining about not having money, yet driving a Mercedes (that drove me up a friggin wall!), and I made the mistake of saying yes to dinner. I paid for everything! Including stuff he ordered.

Bottom line, if it's a romantic date: the guy should at least be gentlemanly and maybe pay for the first date. If it's going somewhere, hopefully the girl knows that it's not a free ride and she should contribute. Friends: I think if you want to pay for everyone, you should, if you don't, then dutch might be the best way to go.

[ebony02]

For most Trinidadian women they EXPECT to be fined, wined and dined. Want to get a Trini woman to wet her panties? Drive a "bess ride" and take her out to "ah bess lime" at one of the "prime" places in the country where you pay for her expensive drinks and you're guaranteed a bull.

They really are a lazy (and in many instances, easy) bunch.

Sincerely,

A Member of the Minority of Trini Women

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

P.S. And don't tell me about fabricating a thing. It's the truth.

[Amelia]

I'm old fashioned. I dont expect to pay for anything if I on a date with u, and yes, I will judge u if u even hint that I should. U courting me - u pay (when last allyuh hear that word, courting :lol: )

Believe it or not, I've never encountered an instance where the issue came up. Thank God for old fashioned guys!

[travelbug]

You're right, some women love to be wined and dined and I do know many girls/women who expect the man to do everything. But if I'm with the guy and I like him too, I want him to treat him as well as he is treating me. It's a two way street, and I think it's ok for a woman to take a guy out to dinner (this is after you've gone out a few times). Might not be courting (good word that is), but it is a modern approach to modern relationships.

[Hyena]

I wined and dined my woman for a good few months (closer to a year) and paid for movies, dinner, taxi etc. At some point, something changed and it was no longer just "dating" but a more serious relationship. Now she splits most bills with me.
Still, every now and again I insist on paying for the movies or a dinner or something.

In short, it started out old fashioned, then somewhere along the line, the "independant woman" side of her popped out.

[Amelia]

I wined and dined my woman for a good few months (closer to a year) and paid for movies, dinner, taxi etc. At some point, something changed and it was no longer just "dating" but a more serious relationship. Now she splits most bills with me.
Still, every now and again I insist on paying for the movies or a dinner or something.

In short, it started out old fashioned, then somewhere along the line, the "independant woman" side of her popped out.

Exactly.

[socialworker]

:roll: I grew up seeing the traditional thing were a man was the provoder, protector...he simply used to pay for everything. But since this talk about equality with men...no way men stop paying for everythin...is only fair that if we are equal then we must be equal at everything...this includes paying the bill too

[sylvestter]

i like my equal opportunity relationship.

generally we both put something towards the bill. sometimes i pay, sometimes she pays. that's for dinner and drinks.

if we go for a movie, if i get the movie she'll get the snacks.

if we going to a party, i'd either get both and she'd get the enxt time or we both buy our own tickets.

works well for me!

[suz]

i know some women who get guys to buy outfits to go parties, pay for the ticket, drinks, meals, etc....

Where them man them dey? :twisted:

I don't like people to pay for me at all. I even have a sister who would offer to pay for all the girls when is girls night out. I doh allow she too.