A kept man

[sheppy]

who want a sugar mama?
who want to be a man sugar mama?

Some men can now 'afford' or choose to stay at home with the children and do the household chores while the woman works, either because of circumstance or concious decision....
Ofcourse the status quo changes with this shift in 'power' some men cannot deal with this, and often times this arrangement fails miserably .
Alternatively, some women, new to the 'power' of being the provider misuse it and make it difficult for a man to assume this role.

I think I could stay at home if i lost my job and be supported by my wife...once i knew it was not permanent. Not because I can't deal with a 'sugar mama' type situation, I like to work, make a living, provide. It partially defines who u are.

What is the importance we place on earning power as it pertains to the decision making ability?
He who makes the gold makes the rules?

[serenity]

Like yuh looking for applicants sheppy? :lol:

Dont think I have it in me to be a sugar mama. Cant possibly be comfortable in that situation unless temporary. Possibly permanently by reason of necessity due to medical drama or something.
I can work and support us if u studying or changing careers or starting a business. I have no problem u working for less than me either. But to mind u and u be househusband? Eh eh.
Maybe cos I cant understand why anyone would want to be home. So I dont think I'd be comfortable being a kept woman either if it means I have to stop working. Then again, check me back in a couple years, I might be singing a different tune regarding the kept woman business.

[Scorpio]

^^ sometimes ppl's circumstances just can't be helped, that does not necesarily make them a bad person or an undesirable person. ;)

[KFCSpicy]

Me eh paying for no dickee. Dickee's role is to pay for me.

That said....ah waiting for the cuss. lmao

Seriously tho, I don't care either way as I am willing to be a partner in a relationship. If boyo cyah wuk then I dey to handle de things cause when I want and need he will have to do the same. I believe in a give and take situation and I also strangely believe that men must provide for the woman as that's what I am accustomed too.

[sheppy]

well that's what i was getting at....
the social conditioning we all have that gives us the idea that men do the providing financially
and change to that brings chaos....

[Mysty]

lol @ KFC.....

According to the situation I do not mind supporting my partner, but hey, I am not encouraging no man to stay home and scratch. Find a wuk!

[Scorpio]

Yuh can't make love on empty belly. :D

[KFCSpicy]

i cud^^^ and i does fit een meh clothes better after dat. My money is for my hair and thing dread leh he find two wuk and mind me and the lifestyle i accustomed to. Why man does always covet women dey cyah afford or get then want we to unnnerstan when yuh cyah pay for blacony tickets in Globe dread? :roll:

[Solachica]

Me ent minding a man and I don't want a man to mind me.
But circumstances cud affect a situation so you never know.

[serenity]

well that's what i was getting at....
the social conditioning we all have that gives us the idea that men do the providing financially
and change to that brings chaos....

Yes, social conditioning has a part to play in it esp when it comes to other ppl's reaction to this arrangement. For example, i know for a fact my mother will be raising her brows if I were to announce that I'll be the sole breadwinner in my family and my husband staying home to mind de chile.

But other than that, ambition is one of those things that are on the list of desirable traits in my mate, so it'll be a stretch to accept that he's comfortable staying home. Big big turn off.

[sylvestter]

i doh know about this kept business.

i think separate incomes give both people some degree of independence...

[peanut]

Somebody please answer me this, women have no problem with being kept by her man, why is being a kept man being frowned upon?

[kemist]

all i know is that if or when i have kids i dont want them to be brought up by a maid or something like that. One of we gonna have to stay home or maybe only work part time. I hope is not me, but if it has to be me, i will do it for the kids.