Test of a person’s true nature.

[Amelia]

What do u use to measure someone's true nature?
What test tells how someone really is?

Here are some I came across in my readings. Do u have any?

- “How a person treats a waiter.”
- “Whether a person plays by the rules when no one is watching.”
- “How people behave when they’re pulled over while driving.”
- “How a person treats his or her own parents. And in-laws.”
- “My father told me never to trust a man who doesn’t drink—though he did say there are a few medical exceptions.” (Maybe I'm off the hook here as a woman, but I basically had to give up drinking, so I'd fail this test.)
- “How often they use the bcc function in work emails. I don’t think you should ever use the bcc.”
- “How he or she handles good fortune.”
- “How he or she behaves during a long, arduous trip.”
- “It is almost a definition of a gentleman to say that he is one who never inflicts pain.”—John Henry Newman.

[Chicabonita]

- “My father told me never to trust a man who doesn’t drink—

So trust one who does? :?

[Amelia]

- “My father told me never to trust a man who doesn’t drink—

So trust one who does? :?

:lol: Its not my test, just one of those I've come across.

[shield_2006]

OH DEAR- I like a good drink-but yuh cud trust me-to not stop drinking the gazul. ;) ;)

[snowbird]

only one test....... do you treat 'All' others the way you would like to be treated?

[letric]

Treat people as they should be, and you help them to become what they can be

[gurucam]

What do u use to measure someone's true nature?
What test tells how someone really is?

Here are some I came across in my readings. Do u have any?

- “How a person treats a waiter.”
- “Whether a person plays by the rules when no one is watching.”
- “How people behave when they’re pulled over while driving.”
- “How a person treats his or her own parents. And in-laws.”
- “My father told me never to trust a man who doesn’t drink—though he did say there are a few medical exceptions.” (Maybe I'm off the hook here as a woman, but I basically had to give up drinking, so I'd fail this test.)
- “How often they use the bcc function in work emails. I don’t think you should ever use the bcc.”
- “How he or she handles good fortune.”
- “How he or she behaves during a long, arduous trip.”
- “It is almost a definition of a gentleman to say that he is one who never inflicts pain.”—John Henry Newman.

Trust someone who is led unconditionally by the urgings of love which rises and are sustained naturally and spontaneously within his or her heart for those specific people, things and circumstances in his or her environment. Trust him or her also when these urgings of love which arose and were sustained naturally and spontaneously within his or her heart, wanes (falls off) and he or she has to move on.

Such a person is blatantly honest and under grace of God. For indeed God is love and only those who have loved know God. Urgings of love which arises and are sustained and then dissolves, naturally and spontaneously within one's heart for specific people, things and circumstances in God's creation is clear intuitively discerned indication of God's will and His omniscient guidance for that person.

One who is under grace of God is absolutely honest. He or she habitually and simply obeys these urgings as they go through the three phases of arising, being sustained and dissolving in the above manner.

That is, when love's urgings arises naturally and spontaneously within one's heart for those specific people, things and circumstances in one's environment (which is God's creation) a person who is honest and under grace of God, will do the following: He or she will simply go forth and form associations and relationships with the objects (the people, things and circumstances) of these urgings of love. And he or she will sustain these relationships or associations for as long as these urgings of love are sustained within his or her heart. And when these urgings of love dissolves so too he or she will dissolve these relationships or associations and move on. There is nothing more honest that this approach to life. In actuality it is a life in Christ, the Christian way of life.

This is the behavior of a person who is honest in the sight of God. He is simply unconditionally obedient to the urgings of love which arises, are sustained and dissolves naturally and spontaneous within his or her heart for those specific people things and circumstances in his environment which is God's creation.

Indeed one who continue to say in an intimate relationship with some for whom urgings of love are no longer sustained within one's heart is clearly not being honest and straightforward with one self. How then can such a person be honest with any body else?

[mammadon]

People are complex, and no person is 100% good or 100% bad. But to me, I would gauge the "goodness" of a person by how they act in general.

Do they treat most (if not all) persons respectfully? Do they go out of their way to be a bitch to others?

If not, then IMO this is a good person.

[Amelia]

^^ a person isnt good if they treat most respectfully but bitchy to some?
U judge ppl by this standard even if u dont know the reason behind the bitchiness?
Or the history between the two?
Do u honestly think its possible to treat all persons equally?

[mammadon]

I think as a rule of thumb, one should be good to all people. but obviously life is not black and white, so there are invariably times when some persons are bad to others.

But yes, it depends on the reason for the bad vibes between them. Even still, if somebody does us wrong, this doesn't mean we necessarily have to hurt them back. To me, a more mature way would be to avoid them or still be civil to them.

[alieninthecaribbean]

How someone treats with a person they consider their enemy or with whom they disagree is often a very good indicator :D

[letric]

Never take criticism personally, or judge another person. Learn to accept differences, indeed, avoid taking differences as personal attempts to frustrate you. Reputation is perception but character is reality.

[Amelia]

How someone treats with a person they consider their enemy or with whom they disagree is often a very good indicator :D

I disagree. Ppl are enemies of each other for many many reasons and one should not be judged by how u treat the man who tried to sell ur kids drugs for example.

To me how ppl treat ppl that they have nothing to gain from might be a better indication.

[alieninthecaribbean]

To me how ppl treat ppl that they have nothing to gain from might be a better indication.


Ah! That's also a good one Amelia!

It's a scenario I often pose to religious folk who believe they are going to get a heavenly reward for their good deeds. I often ask,
"Would you still do good if you were going to get nothing in reward?"

But I think mine is a good measure too. I wasn't referring so much so to the situation where harm is meted out to you or your family (although a saint would be able to forgive even that) but one where a person gets to show human kindness to those considered "the enemy".

More like the Germans who hid Jews even when they are supposed to be the enemy instead of just going with the mob mentality. Or whites that helped slaves go free. Or the brave teenager that says to his friends who are bullying the school reject, "Hey! Stop that! That is not cool!"

It was more along those lines ;)

[Amelia]

In the examples u give, the person doesnt consider the other person their enemy. In fact, they are able to stand up and act charitably BEC the enemy is the one they standing up to.

It seems what u are saying is that a person can be judged by their ability to think and act independently.

Does that make Dr Tiller a good person?

[ebony02]

A man's relationship with his mother. I concur with the waiter treatment; I have actually eliminated potentials based on their treatment of waiters. How someone speaks of their exes several months (or years) after a break up. If a man or woman rushes to say "she was a b!tch" or "he is a dog!" watch out. They may not be the type who forgives easily but rather hold a grudge for life.

[alieninthecaribbean]

It's more than just independent thinking.

It's the ability to see someone else's humanity, no matter the external label; "enemy", "different", "freak", "infidel", "heathen" etc.

It's what some would say is "Christlike" or "Buddhic". I think if someone is that in touch with the inner humanity of others, they are an advanced soul and a person of quality.

[mammadon]

Never take criticism personally, or judge another person. Learn to accept differences, indeed, avoid taking differences as personal attempts to frustrate you. Reputation is perception but character is reality.

Do you mean judge as in being judgemental, or judge as in natural judging?

Is thinking "look at she, so fat so" at an overweight woman the same as thinking "that fat woman has nice jewellery"?

[Scorpio]

- “How a person treats a waiter.”
.

The "waitress test" is a tried and true classic.

The theory is that how a person treats a waitress/service station attendant, doorman, etc in early dates is indicative of how they will rtreat you later on, when they are more "used" to you. ;)

[letric]

To listen closely and reply well is the highest perfection we are able to attain in the art of conversation.

[letric]

Small minds are distressed by little things. Great minds see them all but are not upset by them

[letric]

There are two things over which you have complete control - your mind and your mouth.