Which is more important to you?

[Trinique]

a man who SHOWS you he loves you by his actions or one who TELLS you he loves? what if he shows it but has trouble expressing it? are most men unable to express their true feelings for someone? is it easier to buy a rose for her than to tell her you missed her today? comments please :P

[Solachica]

I don't mind hearing it now and then.
If he showing his love I have no problem with tht since I am not a very vocal person myself when it comes to tht sorta stuff.

[sapodila]

I think actions speaks louder than words, although it's nice to hear those words from time to time straight from the heart and not from the lips only. I appreciate a meaning full " I missed you...." rather than a store bought rose or one from the neighbour's yard ...... after all... the damn rose wither and die..... the heartfelt words lingers on and on and on.

[vaio]

both actually... cause saying it and not showing it, doesn't say much and like y'all i like to hear it :)

[sheppy]

Well i tink ppl need both (well i tink women need both more ;) )

But its easy to get complacent in a relationship after a couple years...the suggestive txt messages and 3 hour long phone calls usually ends up with one or the other at the apt or house to watch everybody loves raymond on the couch an go home....
worse yet in marriage...one could argue
"every ting i do is fuh u!" D money ah making...de pot ah washin...de grocery i buyin...d movie we watchin..i does do dem ting fuh u woman ! is everyday ah hadda tell yuh ah love yuh too !
d woman cud say...d food ah cook...d money I Makin..d grocery ah buyin..etc...is cuz she luv yuh too...why she hadda put out yuh food wit a extra special heart-shaped garnish on d plate to show u she love u....

for those who have had someone tell them that they are loved...or show it...there really is no substitute! They are both important and is important that we remember (how nice it does feel and) to do both from time to time....

[Solachica]

True talk there sheppy

[SSDD]

showing, not everyone can always find the words to say how they feel. it must be verbally expressed sometimes but there are many ways to show someone you love them

[serenity]

Showing. The time and effort u expend on doing things for/with me mean more to me. By buying the rose, I know u thought of me. By making the call I know u missed me. By leaving your warm house and driving all the way to cunupia on a rainy night bec I say I feeling to eat mohammed's barbeque, I know u love me. It doesnt always need to be said when its shown all the time.

[Scorpio]

anybody can say those 3 words and/or buy flowers....

.....If someone really cares about you, it will show in the way they treat you and the things they do for u and the things they say to you and how they listen to you....but if all you're looking for is superficial stuff like flowers and "i love yous " you may not be able to see this.

[Transient]

Well I'm sorry to say but we guys really are not good at that stuff. We'll proberbly make an attempt for the first year or two but then most of us get lazy.

I guess that's when you have to look at the quality of time you spend with your mate rather than the obvious signs of love you see in the movies.

Don't try to get your man to do the sissy stuff we'll just screw it up anyway.

[KFCSpicy]

a man who SHOWS you he loves you by his actions or one who TELLS you he loves? what if he shows it but has trouble expressing it? are most men unable to express their true feelings for someone? is it easier to buy a rose for her than to tell her you missed her today? comments please :P


Awww Trinique this is a nice post. The answer is evident and obvious. I prefer a man to show me. I always say that love is a verb and we all know that a verb is an action word. show me you love me...withdraw all yuh money out de bank and sign everything over to me kinda love.

I had this boyfriend years ago who was an utter dream to behold physically, sexually, manners, could cook, never let me spend a dollar, spoke his mind, bought me gifts, loved his mom and her two pet rats (sorry dem small dogs) and listened to me if I was talking not listend at me.

He didn't like to argue and stood up for me on numerous occasions without prodding. This man used to encourage me to be better at everything. I mean the emotional aspect of it was so intense that I cried during sex...he was that great! But....

And ladies there is going to always going to be a but...he never knew how to express himself to me. He was less educated than me, he even actually earned less than me too. When we did argue I was the only one doing the arguing cause he was not confrontational like me...all of this and I loved him dearly but wasn't in love with him. sighh we women never pleased eh? Everytime now I meet a guy I compare them to him cause he was what I wanted. Anyways long story short...I want to be shown in soooo many ways how much u love, respect and care about me and my welfare. Words just doh cut it for this old woman anymore, :oops:

[kayt]

Well i tink ppl need both (well i tink women need both more ;) )

But its easy to get complacent in a relationship after a couple years...the suggestive txt messages and 3 hour long phone calls usually ends up with one or the other at the apt or house to watch everybody loves raymond on the couch an go home....
worse yet in marriage...one could argue
"every ting i do is fuh u!" D money ah making...de pot ah washin...de grocery i buyin...d movie we watchin..i does do dem ting fuh u woman ! is everyday ah hadda tell yuh ah love yuh too !
d woman cud say...d food ah cook...d money I Makin..d grocery ah buyin..etc...is cuz she luv yuh too...why she hadda put out yuh food wit a extra special heart-shaped garnish on d plate to show u she love u....

for those who have had someone tell them that they are loved...or show it...there really is no substitute! They are both important and is important that we remember (how nice it does feel and) to do both from time to time....

Nice post :D . I'm in total agreement. Someone getting me flowers isn't that impressive since those cut flowers are already dying and I get hayfever. I may like chocolates but I dislike those soft centred goey things and I'm allergic to perfumes. It takes talk and getting to really know each other as couple to know what would make each other smile and feel appreciated.

[Trinique]

KFC spicy sounds like you had a great guy, I wonder if the lack of communication was the REAL reason it didn't work out, or maybe there was more? perhaps because he was less educated and didn't have much money :?:

anyhow I agree with most of what was said here, but I think words are just as important as actions. I think they go hand in hand. How many Trini men tell their wives they love them on a regular basis? I'm not talking about every single hour of the day, but when they call them at work to find out who picking up de milk at the end of the day, do you end the conversation by saying "love u"? :oops: :mrgreen:

[vaio]

anyhow I agree with most of what was said here, but I think words are just as important as actions. I think they go hand in hand. How many Trini men tell their wives they love them on a regular basis? I'm not talking about every single hour of the day, but when they call them at work to find out who picking up de milk at the end of the day, do you end the conversation by saying "love u"? :oops: :mrgreen:

I guess i am one of the lucky few then..

[KFCSpicy]

relationships are never simple they are always hard work even the best ones. So my relationship ended not because of stress between the two of us in any way. Dat man book sense was not of the UWI level but he tail knew much more than people gave him credit for. My reasons for ending it was silly as hell but still meant something to me at the time.

I just was not as comfortable with the age diff as I thought I would have been. I kept thinking damn he so young and I am sooooooo..um highly experienced shall we say? I always thought I was keeping him back or that he deserved someone younger and with less cynicism and experience to taint his outlook.

I regret it now but not for the reasons you all may think, I regret not really sticking it out and seeing how far it would have led. Now he has a girlfriend and a child and that breaks my heart but on top of that I am pleased that she is taking care of him. My loss! :cry:

[Trinique]

wait I jes realize we have de same age :mrgreen:

[KFCSpicy]

ummm i am really 13 eh but i wanted to get online so i lie bout meh age...plus I does look like Beyonce just in case anybody ask yuh. :lol: :mrgreen: :roll: :oops:

[Honey]

Both important to me.
I like to be told...when we're apart.....and like to be shown ;) when we are together.

[Mysty]

a man who SHOWS you he loves you by his actions or one who TELLS you he loves? what if he shows it but has trouble expressing it? are most men unable to express their true feelings for someone? is it easier to buy a rose for her than to tell her you missed her today? comments please :P


I prefer someone who shows you that they love by their actions, at least you know.

I aint trust a man telling me he loves me, he might lying. :lol:

[letric]

Truth, loyalty, and honesty.

[Double Trouble]

Truth, loyalty, and honesty.

letric,


That was a timely response! It only took you exactly two years and nine days to come up with those gems :salut:

[ebony02]

a man who SHOWS you he loves you by his actions or one who TELLS you he loves? what if he shows it but has trouble expressing it? are most men unable to express their true feelings for someone? is it easier to buy a rose for her than to tell her you missed her today? comments please :P

Phew. Love this question!

Actions speak louder than words. :mrgreen:

I won't say "most men are unable to express their true feelings" because there isn't a blueprint to how all men are expected to express their feelings. What may work for one may not work for another, but ultimately his consistent actions should give women an idea as to how much he values/cherishes/loves/appreciates you in his life.

This can only be determined over a period of time, after the dust done settle. :lol:

[trinipepper]

My babies,first and foremost,which is an extention of my family.My values,principles and everything that was taught to me that has allowed me to keep this wonderful life that I have right now.This is what I love and this is what is important to me.

[letric]

The right to be ME!