Relationships with person older men/women

[vaio]

Not just by a couple of years but by 10years or more..do you think it can work.. and last?!

I know ppl have problems when the woman is older.... but not so much when the man is the older one in the relationship..

[Trinique]

I would rather date an older man than a younger one, they are too immature.
Ten years older is my limit...

[vaio]

[quote="Trinique"]I would rather date an older man than a younger one, they are too immature.quote]

Even if you were say... 35 and he 30?

[Trinique]

hmm it depends I guess, he might be very mature for his age, so I suppose that would be OK. To me a person's age doesn't really say much about their level of maturity, so someone 25 might be more mature than a 40 year old. I dated a guy who was 7 years my junior and things didn't work out, I found him immature in a number of ways, that's not to say that it wouldn't work for you though.

[vaio]

well chica, i hear you on dat, i have always thought younger men in general to be more immature... but sometimes with older men... i guess sometimes they wanna take care of you...

[sapodila]

Maturity matters most. Age don't really make a difference except if you are considering starting a family and let's say who really wants to have kids after 40?

[sheppy]

well men cud 'father' children well into their 60's and 70's ....they might not be around to see the child get married or their grandkids...but hey at least they have the option if they want to...

women on the other hand have a finite number of child-bearing years and so the clock ticks and the nervousness sets in...

but age is a number...even if u born on the same day on the same year..somebody born first..and somebody born second ;)
i wud be more concerned with whether the person is a match for me

[serenity]

I prefer men my own age bec I'd like to be with someone who's in the same stage in life like me. U might be looking to get your first home and he might be ready to sell everything and go sailing. I mean, when u with someone way older, they been there, done that, on so many things that they may not able to share the thrill of certain experiences. Or their experiences may be different - u talking about CXC days and he talking bout GCE days; or he talking bout Jolly Roger days and u talking bout Nuts.

[Scorpio]

This topic again... :roll:

[sheppy]

LOL scorps..is a new forum...i does be tempted to say reeeeepost...but technically is not..

[Scorpio]

^^ well, I suppose..

[Solachica]

I like older men and older men like me :D

[KFCSpicy]

hmm it depends I guess, he might be very mature for his age, so I suppose that would be OK. To me a person's age doesn't really say much about their level of maturity, so someone 25 might be more mature than a 40 year old. I dated a guy who was 7 years my junior and things didn't work out, I found him immature in a number of ways, that's not to say that it wouldn't work for you though.


:shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: 7 YEARS YUH JUNIOR AND YUH PROFILE SAY U IZ 25?

Policeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee....

I have a policy based on experience with this. Most men come across mature in the beginning but when you get down to the nitty gritty of it they are just tryna play man..which is all well and good but not so good if your idea of a real man is one who has to show off for yuh friends or lie a lot or spend money on you and not on me...little things like conversation on topics and views could also be quite...umm enlightening. :roll:

I guess I prefer men my age, I eh tryna be nobody teacher or nobody night nurse either so gimme a lil chance to enjoy someone who remembers Sesame Street ...the good years with nah. :(

The only how I dating a young man is if it's strictly for bedroom research purposes...as all yuh done know I am like Madonna...A Virgin and never everrrrrrrrrr been touched :? (all yuh hah no proof so hurssssssssh). :geek:

[sapodila]

Sheppy.......dem 60s' 70sish old men could have children agreed. However, are they ONLY going to impregnate and NOT be around to establish a good sound family foundation? Then what's the point of bearing fruits they can't nurture?! For women these days 40 is too old to have a child. When the child starts school, he / she friends say "are you_____ granma?" how yuh tink dat all excited proud parent go feel? I see dis all the time eh....so ah could touk bout it.

[sheppy]

Actually sapodila, 40 is the new 30 for women...there is an increasing trend of women sacrificing their 'best' child bearing years to concentrate on career.... and also there are alot of these 30-something and early 40's women that are now trying to start a family..and found that it is too late....

but i hear yuh Serenity on the ability to relate to your spouse with respect to age difference.
Some people argue that an older man may be more intune with a younger woman as (apparently) they are prone to mature earlier...
but shuddn't the inverse also apply ? where there is an immature (older) woman and a mature (younger) guy that can relate to each other...

[vaio]

i have a friend who i 35 her husband is 81 and she has two kinds ages 5 and 6.. i always see him trying to be her father and is always telling her what to do and how to do things.. btw he has children older than her and grandchildren close to her age.. she gets upset by his controlling ways..

[Mysty]

If I was single I would prefer to date men around my own age.

The thing is, most men are normally in a serious relationship or married from late 20s onwards, hence the options are limited for a woman finding herself single mid thirties onwards. Either a man way too young or an older man with baggage (divorced with children, ex wife, mortgage etc)

[Trinique]

KFC spicy I'm 34 not 25, ah mek ah mistake :mrgreen:

[KFCSpicy]

^^^^ ummm hmmm AH watchin yuh now eh! :shock:

[Trinique]

:D :D :D

[kemist]

For me, i am 'married' to my work and studies right now and i have no time for a serious relationship. I know that it is difficult for women to accept that they do not come first in a guy's life, but in my experience, older women tend to understand my situation better. I know for some, dating = serious relationship, (lol) but not for me. For me dating is as the word suggest - dating and i found that older women (especially divorced women) could more easily distinguish between the differences . I tried dating younger women and women around my age, In a couple of instances, the dating had blossomed into a relationship which didn't last too long because i couldn't give them the attention they required ( like talking on the phone for hours, liming every weekend, etc). I am not about to make the same mistake.
In a year from now i will be ready for a serious relationship and i think my preference for that would be a woman around my age or younger, but for now i'll stick to what works best for me.

[KFCSpicy]

why men like young woman so? is it because they feel they could maintain some semblance of they lost youth through younger women?

[sheppy]

hmmm let dem speak fuh deyself...
i like my women mature...intelligent and confident.

when i talk to some of those 'younger' women...within 5 seconds of beginning a conversation..my brain goes into screensaver...my eyes look interested and my head nods...but i cud care less about that other woman, and if i believe what she wearing...and what you saw when u recently went shopping...sporadically interjected by 'OOOO mygod' :lol:

[strombo23]

hmmm let dem speak fuh deyself...
i like my women mature...intelligent and confident.

when i talk to some of those 'younger' women...within 5 seconds of beginning a conversation..my brain goes into screensaver...my eyes look interested and my head nods...but i cud care less about that other woman, and if i believe what she wearing...and what you saw when u recently went shopping...sporadically interjected by 'OOOO mygod' :lol:


lol.
they have sum girls here...thats the highlight of their week. "like OMG, they had like one Juice Couture that i like left, and one lady was watching it, and held it, then paused and put it back down. then me and my friend like ran for it. and like i'm sooooo lucky i got it...". whats even more annyoing is their high pitched tone.

[strombo23]

some men preffer younger girls casue they easy. some young girls prefer much older men cause they can provide them with money and transporation. i dont know if i'll date a woman in her 30's but who knows, i wont rule it out. 40's or more. eh eh. not going there.

[KFCSpicy]

Well I am 58 and I am hoping to meet a lil 19 year old ...all yuh cud rock so wid dat older man thing dread :( ;)

[vaio]

hmmm let dem speak fuh deyself...
i like my women mature...intelligent and confident.

when i talk to some of those 'younger' women...within 5 seconds of beginning a conversation..my brain goes into screensaver...my eyes look interested and my head nods...but i cud care less about that other woman, and if i believe what she wearing...and what you saw when u recently went shopping...sporadically interjected by 'OOOO mygod' :lol:


lol.
they have sum girls here...thats the highlight of their week. "like OMG, they had like one Juice Couture that i like left, and one lady was watching it, and held it, then paused and put it back down. then me and my friend like ran for it. and like i'm sooooo lucky i got it...". whats even more annyoing is their high pitched tone.

where do you guys meet these kind of girls... they simply cannot be women..so immature behaviour..

[strombo23]

these are 18/ 19 yr olds. i'm in College located in a rich area of SoFla. not everyone lives in the same world. i wouldn't call it immature, but there must be something in your life more important than this. typical young rich usually white western behaviour. i tell you guys, what you all see on those teen shows and movies...it is NOT an exageration. one time she even made a comment about a girl being poor. like it was leprosy :evil:

[lexbarker]

why men like young woman so? is it because they feel they could maintain some semblance of they lost youth through younger women?
Men don't want age and experience. Men want youth even though their head is full of air. I am the quiet type so no talking please.

[KFCSpicy]

^^^ eh? :o

[lexbarker]

^^^ eh? :o
Yes, there is nothing like youth. After 30 everything starts to fall apart.

[KFCSpicy]

I think u talking from personal experience. :shock: Get some Evo stik Lexxy and maybe if she doh ruff yuh up too much yuh go be good as new. :?

[vaio]

^^^ eh? :o
Yes, there is nothing like youth. After 30 everything starts to fall apart.

:o :o :o

[sheppy]

Men don't want age and experience

don't knock it till u've tried it... u might like it...(along with d silence :lol:)

[punjabtrini]

Older women are more mature, have their own assets, have more experience, are more sensible so you do not have to impress them. Be oneself, have fun and hope the other padna seeking the same and not someone to sponge off!

[KFCSpicy]

punjab i always cud do wid more money so if i am 90 and meet jay z who is 94 and he richer dan me...hell yeah he get de grey coochie.

[orchid]

So true about older they are more mature ,more experienced, and they are more comfortable with you as a woman .
Sometimes it not all about sex .
I have learnt more from older men both emotionally, physically, sexually, financially than from men my age.
It was older men who thought me that i am making damn good money and to always put away for a rainy day.
Do you believe that i cannot take money from them if i am with you it's because i want to be with that person not for their money .
Anytime you have to be with someone and money exchanging hands it feels like postitution

[Eden]

^^^ eh? :o
Yes, there is nothing like youth. After 30 everything starts to fall apart.


lol...not true.. i'm 36 and i'm as firm and tight as when i was in fabulous youth.
some young girls look horrific for their age...so sad

[travelbug]

I posted this very same topic...merge it perhaps?

[Trinique]

I'm 35 and he WAS 52, ah try ah ting for ah couple of dates but NO WAY, he too ole :mrgreen:

[southman]

I'm 35 and he WAS 52, ah try ah ting for ah couple of dates but NO WAY, he too ole :mrgreen:

Why scream,'NO WAY' Probably the ride was not up to par.

[Trinique]

haha what ride? steups not every woman sleeps with a man after a couple of dates, some women have class :roll: