Is horning inevitable?

[serenity]

This weekend this topic came up at a girls' lime and most of those present expressed the view that once the opportunity presents itself and the likelihood of getting caught is slim, somebody getting horn. Some even stated flat out that getting horned is inevitable. They strongly advised that while you may not want it to happen, one should prepare emotionally and otherwise for the possibility. Do u agree?

[dhal]

i used to think that it wasnt. that as long as u keep yuh partner happy at home then it wouldnt happen, but i have met ppl who have it all at home and still lookin outside...so now im not so sure.

plus, some ppl jus cant control themselves....

[Scorpio]

Monogamy is becoming abnormal in modern society, still I refuse to be casual about sex, so I guess I'm abnormal. ;)

[Somebody007]

I think getting horned is not inevitable and it is something that can be avoided. Yes there are temptations out there, but if you truly love someone and they love you the same way in return, then there would be no desire to 'horn' your partner or your partner horning you.

[dhal]

Monogamy is becoming abnormal in modern society, still I refuse to be casual about sex, so I guess I'm abnormal. ;)

well in this case that makes two of us wierdos...tho i doh mind being abnormal on this one...

[peanut]

For most horning is inevitable when partners take each other for granted and the relationship becomes like an old shoe. I must be wierd too cause I also believe in monogamous relationships.

[Solachica]

There may be temptations but am with Scorpio and dhal on this one.... I'll join the weirdo list too. :mrgreen:

[KFCSpicy]

First up, loving the pic in your profile Dhal.

Secondly, loving the new icons too wow. Ok horning is between adults and no matter how hard yuh drag the horse to the river yuh cyah make it drink from de water all de time eh. So saying, some people think that because their ideal of what is treating the person good is what is accepted all around then that person should be grateful. Others are just plain greedy and like the smell of new drawse (like when u get a new book or leather interior for yuh car).

But the end all of it, in my humble opinion, is that communication is key, knowing your partner is key and also not pretending to see the warning signs even before u venture there with that person u are with...is key. :|

One can only pray one does not get horned and one can only instill discipline in ones self.

[Scorpio]

There may be temptations but am with Scorpio and dhal on this one.... I'll join the weirdo list too. :mrgreen:


:lol: Nice to know I'm not the only weirdo around here.

[dhal]

First up, loving the pic in your profile Dhal.

which profile?? ttonline? i have a pic?? lol

[sapodila]

Where's the trust? Good for you folks who chose monogamy......Hurray!

[Scorpio]

Good for you folks who chose monogamy......Hurray!

I take that as a compliment..thanks !!!

[KFCSpicy]

First up, loving the pic in your profile Dhal.

which profile?? ttonline? i have a pic?? lol
:evil: Look look...right!

Yuh know ah mean de red squiggly thingee in de avatar thingeemabob. ah lorve it like cook food. :lol:

[dhal]

hahahhahah thanks :D

[sapodila]

Good for you folks who chose monogamy......Hurray!

I take that as a compliment..thanks !!!
You're welcome! :)

[punjabtrini]

Is like this! When you not honest with yuhself or others, horning (among other things) is just another fact of life. It go happen and it have to happen. If you doh put yuhself in the situation, then it is less liekly to happen.

[Mysty]

i used to think that it wasnt. that as long as u keep yuh partner happy at home then it wouldnt happen, but i have met ppl who have it all at home and still lookin outside...so now im not so sure.

plus, some ppl jus cant control themselves....


I agree with this post. I too have met people who seem to have it all, but once temptation presents itself, that is it. What is amazing is that they seem to forget that there is something catching out there.

[Scorpio]

i used to think that it wasnt. that as long as u keep yuh partner happy at home then it wouldnt happen, but i have met ppl who have it all at home and still lookin outside...so now im not so sure.

plus, some ppl jus cant control themselves....


I agree with this post. I too have met people who seem to have it all, but once temptation presents itself, that is it. What is amazing is that they seem to forget that there is something catching out there.


humm, well the way ppl does act dese days, I thought that doh catch again.... :|

[sheppy]

Horning is not inevitable...but i think the desire is.

Whether the desire was strong, or just a daydream or based on an actual interaction with another person...we all think about other people...

I mean when yuh 40 an yuh see a lil 21 year old wit she skinny long supple legs an perky boobies...any red blooded man will have a lil lust moment..
it doesn't mean he want a relationship or even a fling (ok maybe a fling) but some (smart) men realize is lust...and his relationship with his life partner is more meaningful than succumbing to a carnal desire...

ofcourse other considerations may speed up a potential horning process....and the grass is always greener elsewhere...(or younger and fresher)
allyuh must take a look at Tell me you love me...is a new series on HBO around 9 on sunday nights i tink...

[Mysty]

i used to think that it wasnt. that as long as u keep yuh partner happy at home then it wouldnt happen, but i have met ppl who have it all at home and still lookin outside...so now im not so sure.

plus, some ppl jus cant control themselves....


I agree with this post. I too have met people who seem to have it all, but once temptation presents itself, that is it. What is amazing is that they seem to forget that there is something catching out there.


humm, well the way ppl does act dese days, I thought that doh catch again.... :|

fuh real eh.... dey going brave dese days.... a fella said to me the other day, "once ah oman offering piece he taking"

[dhal]

once he no is piece ah everyting he hadda take...

[cocoa]

In my opinion marriage is scared in the eyes of almighty god and with that understanding the couple should start building a life for themselves and their family, with the strictest fidelity.

[vaio]

its all about respect for the other person and the value you put into your marriage... i was able to catch a look at the series on HBO and it was rather interesting i must say... temptation will always be out there... always...

i agree with some as well who say that once you know you have a chance to get away wit it then yuh goin for it...

[dhal]

horning doesnt only happen in marriage...it can happen in a simle bf/gf relationship...and ppl say "i no how to keep my man happy" but im nto so sure any more..

[SSDD]

i think it is cause the past 4 relationships i've been that has happened. i seriously wondering if is jus me or sum cause i thought things was good next thing i know.... they have thing on the side. ppl always looking around for something better or some just cannot say no when temptation come on themn once i was the other woman and when i realised that was the situ i cut ties and let him eat dust yes i don't play those games

[Scorpio]

i think it is cause the past 4 relationships i've been that has happened.

:shock: omg !! That is terrible.

[sheppy]

the last 4 ??
wow...you must be paranoid by now...that's rough...

[KFCSpicy]

Such is life at least your new agenda should be to make sure it will remain at four. Damn you mean to tell me you can't pick up signs of a person horning yuh? Doh let nobody make yuh feel like yuh paranoid, eventually conspiracy theories all have some basis in fact eh!

Protect yuh heart is only one yuh have dread.

[Scorpio]

Damn you mean to tell me you can't pick up signs of a person horning yuh?


That remind meh of a story, but ah prob shouldn't post it here..lol :D

[SSDD]

oh i did pick up on it that why each time right after it start i cut n run either them or they nex woman does work fast cause they sleep together as soon as. and hell yes i damn well paranoid by now.

[KFCSpicy]

oh i did pick up on it that why each time right after it start i cut n run either them or they nex woman does work fast cause they sleep together as soon as. and hell yes i damn well paranoid by now.

I am guessing you are female right? Well hun 9 out 10 times we are to blame for attracting certain types. After the 3 similar situation yuh must know is your modus operandi for attracting and agreeing to be with these men is the issue here?

Girl even I know that I like a certain type and it don't mean that I does veer away from dem eh? It just means I am at least honest with myself ...so far.

[SSDD]

yea i'm female and i get what you saying but i honestly don't know how to answer you because i will say that not all the guys were the same until the started their crap but i guess that's life... to figure it out till u get it right

[KFCSpicy]

Babes all I can say is two things to you right now on that and then I done. One...don't spend all yuh life kissing toads looking for prince charming eh? Two...yuh doh always have to feel to learn. Yuh get meh drift?

Sit back and be more observant, reticent, discerning of the men you choose. Never feel you owe anyone yuh love or heart just because they offer theirs up to you tantalisingly so.

One love. (errrrm in this case I should also add that I reallllll giving advice and I have a track record for rubbish men dread...physician heal thyself oui). :oops: