Let's Take A Break From Each Other...

[Scorpio]

....Anybody here ever did this ? Take a "break" in a relationship, i.e agree to spend some time apart, so both parties can have some space to think and work thorugh issues in the relationship ?

Does this work out in the end, or is it a sign of a relationship doomed to fail ?

[Sumana]

doomed to fail

[Solachica]

Never did it but I wud expect tht taking this break wud have some ground rules laid out?
I ent want to be taking a break and then have him going dating and sleeping with other people etc. And I wud think he wud expect same from me.
But then again why take a break and expect them to do this for you? :?
Personally I don't think it would work for me. 8-)

[Somebody007]

The grapes and dem does turn sour after ah while.

[SSDD]

i did this with a past relationship of mine. we didn't break up till years after that break it's a matter of what you both expect andhope for it to achieve it works for some and it don't for others

[sapodila]

I don't know about this "taking a break " thing. What if each partner decides to take a break and find out later that the grass is greener on the outside? what then?

[Scorpio]

^^ Better they discover it this way.

[KFCSpicy]

....Anybody here ever did this ? Take a "break" in a relationship, i.e agree to spend some time apart, so both parties can have some space to think and work thorugh issues in the relationship ?

Does this work out in the end, or is it a sign of a relationship doomed to fail ?

I think that when this is done that it's so the person who is proposing it really wants time off to go do their own thing but still keep dibs on yuh body just in case things did not work out on the outside.

But to answer the question, I have had my ex tell me this years ago all because he didnt want me to go visit Trinidad as he realised that I had sooooo many male friends gearing up for my visit. His words to me before I left were...if u go we done. So.....after I came back to London he said to me we needed a break and some space for a few days or so.

My response to him was haul yuh muddah stinking so and so. If yuh not man enuff to know what yuh want now yuh eh go be man enuff to know what yuh go want after the trial separation and I eh nobody's 12 year old crush to have to deal with this so either talk it out and move on or rock so for good. My time is not to be bandied about on the whim of others so I do not agree with this at all at all.
:x

[Mysty]

So wait, the parties cannot work things out while staying together? S

The minute my partner tells me he wants space to think he can take all the space he wants away from me, the further the better.

I am not playing that.

[vaio]

sometimes when you step back a little it helps you to understand the situation better and usually you realise that the r/ship is not what you want and its time to move on...on the other hand it may help you realise that this is the person who you want to be with :)

[sheppy]

I doh agree wit the "let's take a break" thing..... I think if you can't do it together..you can't do it apart...

If is a serious relationship...when yuh get marrid..it doh have no.."i tink we need some space" :arrow: wit dat idea one time...

That said, the feeling to take some time apart is quite common and doesn't mean the relationship is necessarily doomed, but the way that you deal with it can be a signal as to how long it will last....if you can't stick it through the tough times (when u jus dating) what does that say about your relationship? Ppl need to realize is hard work to be with another person all the time....

I think also this feeling of a need to separate is usually because issues beneath the surface or issues from the beginning have been avoided for too long causing them to be larger issues than they shud really be...and at that point it may seem as though they are insurmountable. And how do people deal with it? instead of dealing with it together...they run from it even further..hoping for divine intervention or lighting bolt of clarity.....

[Trinique]

:D :D :D

[Trinique]

sometimes taking a break does help you to figure things out a bit, time apart never hurt anybody, unless ofcourse you use this as opportunity to escape :mrgreen:

[lou_uk]

"And this one time" lady says to me "I'm not comfortable in this relationship, maybe we should....". I say to her "alright then, if you feel that way, you must have for a while..." She got so mad at that response, I've not seen her for three years.. :D

[KFCSpicy]

lou dat is why we did done. cause ah cudnt take de lack ah cleaning and washing and cooking. my mens suppose to make sure it have hot food when i come home. :|

[lou_uk]

That what it was? I coulda swear yuh friend Madge said something about me.. :arrow:

[KFCSpicy]

lmaooooooooooo. :D

[lou_uk]

Ah see yuh still angry... alright :mrgreen:

[Scorpio]

I had forgotten about this thread I started...anyway, de break is permanent now, I find somebody new. :D

[KFCSpicy]

steupse :x

[Midnight]

A break in a relationship can be a healthy change.



Midnight

[vaio]

I had forgotten about this thread I started...anyway, de break is permanent now, I find somebody new. :D

hmmmmmmmmmm :geek:

[sheppy]

:shock:
requested closed by author?

[Scorpio]

^^^ yep !!!

[sheppy]

MODS!!!
clean up on thread 1.....

[Scorpio]

:D

[Solachica]

:mrgreen:
So the break was really a BREAK UP :mrgreen:

[Scorpio]

that's how it turned out, and it didn't take very long, so lesson learnt from this, there is no such things as a break in a relationship.

I guess Ross was right after all.

[Solachica]

:mrgreen:
exactly...yuh live and learn and if yuh ent learn yuh ent living :lol:

[Scorpio]

Ok, ah taking another break while ah in Trinidad.. :cry:

[lexbarker]

Doesn't work.