View Full Version : Would you date an ugly looking person.
Somebody007
10-10-2007, 03:12 PM
Hello people,
Have you ever had an instance when you found out someone who is not good looking in your eyes really likes you and wanted to date you. I have tried that once before and got some much heat from my family and friends, I eventually had no choice but to distance myself from a girl I tried dating many years ago.
It is usually said that beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder and while I believe this is true, it still amazes me sometimes when I see a good looking person matching themselves up with a 'not so good looking' person. Worse yet, I sometimes hear other people making comments about other couples.....as though it is their business to comment on who someone else should pair off with for a relationship.
sheppy
10-10-2007, 03:36 PM
Boy das a good question...
Physical attraction is generally very important for people to have a relationship, especially one where physical manifestations of those emotions are expressed.
I could not date someone i was not physically attracted to. that doh mean dey hadda be Halle berry or Jessica biel or *sigh* Aishwarya but something must attract me to them their eyes, a smile, nice teet, smood skin, firm bottocks...ok lemme stop now yes...
anyway..though physical attraction is important, i think you can have a meaningful, lasting relationship with someone else based on other things..
e.g friends for a long time (never attracted physically) but somehow, one day...there's a spark..or the realization that they both share so much in common..
e.g..going through emotionally turbulent experience with someone (death in family, car accident, etc) may generate feelings that may superceed physical attractivness..
e.g. online chatting over extended periods...
Scorpio
10-10-2007, 08:41 PM
Well, I believe that God doh make ugly people. :D
Sumana
10-10-2007, 08:43 PM
yuh ugly or wah
sapodila
10-10-2007, 09:38 PM
What ever that means........I would gladly like to see how beautiful that person is in the inside, because like they say "true beauty lies within".
Somebody007
10-11-2007, 08:09 AM
Allyuh only sayin beauty lies within but if you women had ah choice between somebody who real ugly and someone good looking, 10 in 10 persons going for the good lookin one. Doh fool nobody with d talk bout beauty lies within nah....I hearin dat sayin since I small but I hardly ever see it applying everywhere.
Somebody007
10-11-2007, 08:09 AM
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Somebody007
10-11-2007, 08:11 AM
Boy das a good question...
Physical attraction is generally very important for people to have a relationship, especially one where physical manifestations of those emotions are expressed.
I could not date someone i was not physically attracted to. that doh mean dey hadda be Halle berry or Jessica biel or *sigh* Aishwarya but something must attract me to them their eyes, a smile, nice teet, smood skin, firm bottocks...ok lemme stop now yes...
anyway..though physical attraction is important, i think you can have a meaningful, lasting relationship with someone else based on other things..
e.g friends for a long time (never attracted physically) but somehow, one day...there's a spark..or the realization that they both share so much in common..
e.g..going through emotionally turbulent experience with someone (death in family, car accident, etc) may generate feelings that may superceed physical attractivness..
e.g. online chatting over extended periods...
so wha you sayin is....if d gyul and dem lookin like ah fat mampee, dey aint stand ah chance wid yuh then... :D :D :D
serenity
10-11-2007, 08:59 AM
If u look closely at ppl, few are truly good-looking in the conventional sense but there's a tonne of attractive ppl out there. And that attraction comes from more than just their physical attributes. There's something ... an aura if u will, which draws me to a person, you know, like when yuh blood just take to someone yuh jus meet? I think that dictates my date choices more than anything else. I've never really had a physical 'type' per se (though of recent times I've developed a penchant for the flat stomach). I like a guy with an easy smile and friendly face. So yes, I have dated a couple guys who my friends initially raised their eyebrows at and probably would again too.
sheppy
10-11-2007, 11:21 AM
To add to that serenity... i think it is more common for men to date based on looks than women...
I'm thinking it may have something to do with ingrained social standards....where women were to be seen and not heard...
a wife was more of a trophy than a partner...a man was a provider more than a soul mate...
i guess it all comes down to what is yuh motivation...
U know like... the way to a man's heart is he belly...and to a woman's heart is through her mind...
Scorpio
10-11-2007, 12:24 PM
yuh ugly or wah
:D :D :D :D
When anyone can give an objective view of beauty and ugliness then I'll be able to answer this question.
ugly or good lookin are subjective terms and may mean different things to different people.. we are all beautiful in different ways...
sheppy
10-11-2007, 02:32 PM
so wha you sayin is....if d gyul and dem lookin like ah fat mampee, dey aint stand ah chance wid yuh then...
:lol: :lol: :lol:
ummm i din say nothing about mampee nuh...like yuh want dem to ban meh?
an actually for d record i prefer meh women wit some meat on d bones eh.... nicole ritchie is no day at the beach....
lexbarker
10-11-2007, 05:07 PM
She would be most beautiful woman if she really loaded wid cash.
Somebody007
10-11-2007, 05:55 PM
You know what I notice.......when it comes to choosing partners, for us men and me included, physical attributes play a most strategic role in selecting a partner whereas for women, race, social and physical attributes don't matter so much. I can't say this for all women but for most of them. That is why you does end up seeing alot of beautiful women with no so much good looking people....whereas us guys, we haddah check out what on the outside before anything else.....and hear nah, when it doh match up to what we set our standards to be....well for that lady, it does a tough luck situation.
What is it about men that women are most attracted to? Is it what is on the inside, or outside is what counts the most?
Somebody007
10-11-2007, 05:56 PM
She would be most beautiful woman if she really loaded wid cash.
Lexbarker, dem woman and dem go say yuh only like dem for dey money and nutten else.....watch out eh......
Somebody007
10-11-2007, 05:59 PM
If u look closely at ppl, few are truly good-looking in the conventional sense but there's a tonne of attractive ppl out there. And that attraction comes from more than just their physical attributes. There's something ... an aura if u will, which draws me to a person, you know, like when yuh blood just take to someone yuh jus meet? I think that dictates my date choices more than anything else. I've never really had a physical 'type' per se (though of recent times I've developed a penchant for the flat stomach). I like a guy with an easy smile and friendly face. So yes, I have dated a couple guys who my friends initially raised their eyebrows at and probably would again too.
What about a guy with intelligence??? Yuh know, someone with some brains??? ;) ;) ;) ;) ;) Would you give that person a thought....
shotta
10-11-2007, 06:07 PM
If you date someone ugly ur least expected to get horn and no one will watch ur girl.
If you get a hot looking chick, u prob get horned, and prob wont last forever.
Me? I date my pc, f U K the worle
strombo23
10-11-2007, 09:40 PM
like a forumite said, guys are more visual than girls. so, to most guys, a girl's looks go have allot of weight if he is deciding to pullup on it. all my x's were attractive in many ways, so for me, i would not date someone that i did not find attractive.
sapodila
10-12-2007, 12:38 AM
If u look closely at ppl, few are truly good-looking in the conventional sense but there's a tonne of attractive ppl out there. And that attraction comes from more than just their physical attributes. There's something ... an aura if u will, which draws me to a person, you know, like when yuh blood just take to someone yuh jus meet? I think that dictates my date choices more than anything else. I've never really had a physical 'type' per se (though of recent times I've developed a penchant for the flat stomach). I like a guy with an easy smile and friendly face. So yes, I have dated a couple guys who my friends initially raised their eyebrows at and probably would again too.
What about a guy with intelligence??? Yuh know, someone with some brains??? ;) ;) ;) ;) ;) Would you give that person a thought.... Been there done that in the pass..........a very attractive, intelligent dude ........did it work? NO! Why? We didn't look alike..............but we were way too much alike.
guyguy
10-12-2007, 01:52 AM
What ever that means........I would gladly like to see how beautiful that person is in the inside, because like they say "true beauty lies within".Only orglee people does say dat. Dat iz why I so hansome. :D :D :D
serenity
10-12-2007, 08:38 AM
If u look closely at ppl, few are truly good-looking in the conventional sense but there's a tonne of attractive ppl out there. And that attraction comes from more than just their physical attributes. There's something ... an aura if u will, which draws me to a person, you know, like when yuh blood just take to someone yuh jus meet? I think that dictates my date choices more than anything else. I've never really had a physical 'type' per se (though of recent times I've developed a penchant for the flat stomach). I like a guy with an easy smile and friendly face. So yes, I have dated a couple guys who my friends initially raised their eyebrows at and probably would again too.
What about a guy with intelligence??? Yuh know, someone with some brains??? ;) ;) ;) ;) ;) Would you give that person a thought....
Silly question. Of course there would be other factors in play other than looks. There's another thread with my whole list.
strombo23
10-12-2007, 10:07 AM
She would be most beautiful woman if she really loaded wid cash.
for real. money can give a guy dat "umph" to try a ting on she. same for guys too. ent ladies.
there are some things which are more important than money....
lexbarker
10-12-2007, 11:36 AM
there are some things which are more important than money....
Yes true, but it can buy lots of love.
not love my friend - it can buy companionship - not love
lexbarker
10-12-2007, 01:47 PM
not love my friend - it can buy companionship - not love
He can use the ugly money to buy the outside love.
KFCSpicy
10-12-2007, 02:00 PM
I refuse to accept the basic premise that people think that looks doh matter. Flock what ya heard bruvs and sistren. If I cyah proudly display yuh in public or stand to look at yuh then just the idea of you touching me would make me hurl.
The wuss thing is an ugly person wid attitude. The other thing i doh unnerstan wid ugliness outwardly displayed is that rude children should not be ugly either. What? Yuh rude and bad and harden and yuh ugly on top of all dat too? But what de mooma wrong wid dis rat fink basstid? I cyah stand rude and ugly ah tall ah tall.
I know for a fact that attractive people can literally get away with murder and mayhem. So go figure the mentality of this world we live in.
Somebody007
10-12-2007, 03:01 PM
I refuse to accept the basic premise that people think that looks doh matter. Flock what ya heard bruvs and sistren. If I cyah proudly display yuh in public or stand to look at yuh then just the idea of you touching me would make me hurl.
The wuss thing is an ugly person wid attitude. The other thing i doh unnerstan wid ugliness outwardly displayed is that rude children should not be ugly either. What? Yuh rude and bad and harden and yuh ugly on top of all dat too? But what de mooma wrong wid dis rat fink basstid? I cyah stand rude and ugly ah tall ah tall.
I know for a fact that attractive people can literally get away with murder and mayhem. So go figure the mentality of this world we live in.
Please explain the statement in bold abit further because I am thinking about a situation which occurred in my life a couple years ago. I wonder if this statement fits what happened to me more than 5 years ago.
Somebody007
10-12-2007, 03:04 PM
there are some things which are more important than money....
Yes true, but it can buy lots of love.
Nah not always....yuh tink if yuh had all the money in the world, the Queen of England or Princess Diana woulda still come after yuh....I doh tink so...
i'd rather be moneyless and have love than loveless and have money..
Scorpio
10-12-2007, 03:27 PM
i'd rather be moneyless and have love than loveless and have money..
Obviously you have never been moneyless. :D
well its kinda gr8 to have a lil of both ;)
sapodila
10-12-2007, 03:43 PM
What ever that means........I would gladly like to see how beautiful that person is in the inside, because like they say "true beauty lies within".Only orglee people does say dat. Dat iz why I so hansome. :D :D :D
So YOU say.........yuh tempting meh to post meh pic.
sapodila
10-12-2007, 03:46 PM
i'd rather be moneyless and have love than loveless and have money..
Well said chica.
ah know most women will agree with this.... now de guys on de other.... welll
serenity
10-15-2007, 07:17 AM
i'd rather be moneyless and have love than loveless and have money..
Obviously you have never been moneyless. :D
Obviously. Cah make love on hungry belly vaio.
true...but yuh ent go find ah mind who doh have ah shirt on he back...and ambition can help
Mysty
10-15-2007, 12:14 PM
like allyuh never hear the saying No money No love or what? :D
In any relationship (orglee or good/looking person) if you have to struggle for money, it is going to take its toll on the relationship,
and soon or later love is going to go through the window, especially when you see the people around you
prospering and you are not.
Somebody007
10-15-2007, 02:02 PM
like allyuh never hear the saying No money No love or what? :D
In any relationship (orglee or good/looking person) if you have to struggle for money, it is going to take its toll on the relationship,
and soon or later love is going to go through the window, especially when you see the people around you
prospering and you are not.
that is true and take ah look ah Shabba Ranks.....that man use to have plenty oman rong he but he was damn...........
sheppy
10-15-2007, 04:23 PM
Mr. Loverman... :lol: :lol: :lol:
kemist
10-15-2007, 05:23 PM
lol
i doh see what all this fuss is about.
date whoever yuh think go give yuh nukeee.
the last time i check, it have no shortage of paper bag in this country.
and yuh always have de option to turn off de light switch or out down de pichoil lamp
one more thing for the guys.....
when yuh date a woman 'uglier' than you, you eh ha no worries about she horning yuh. she will do almost anything to please ya and keep ya.
when ya dating a 'hot chick', you is de one who have to do most of de pleasing (and begging lol) and de worrying.
Somebody007
10-16-2007, 09:21 AM
lol
i doh see what all this fuss is about.
date whoever yuh think go give yuh nukeee.
the last time i check, it have no shortage of paper bag in this country.
and yuh always have de option to turn off de light switch or out down de pichoil lamp
one more thing for the guys.....
when yuh date a woman 'uglier' than you, you eh ha no worries about she horning yuh. she will do almost anything to please ya and keep ya.
when ya dating a 'hot chick', you is de one who have to do most of de pleasing (and begging lol) and de worrying.
Laughin at the paper bag comment....all what yuh say else is correct too.
sheppy
10-16-2007, 11:28 AM
Well i glad allyuh tink 'hot chick' go horn yuh......it have a few woman out dey that man fraid to go out wit dem cuz dey too good looking ..so dey tink "ah might as well not even try" ..."she outta meh league"...."she go only horn meh after a month"
I doh tink dat atall....den people does wonder...'how come he wit dat good lookin woman ? he musbe have money... :lol: '
one man mistake is anudder man opportunity...
serenity
10-16-2007, 01:38 PM
Well i glad allyuh tink 'hot chick' go horn yuh......it have a few woman out dey that man fraid to go out wit dem cuz dey too good looking ..so dey tink "ah might as well not even try" ..."she outta meh league"...."she go only horn meh after a month"
I doh tink dat atall....den people does wonder...'how come he wit dat good lookin woman ? he musbe have money... :lol: '
one man mistake is anudder man opportunity...
This is sooooo true!
I went to school (tertiary) with a mix chick. She mix with white ppl genes so she had the colour that trini men like (yes, is a general statement, yes ah know not all men so, if u still have a problem with the statement send a pm :mrgreen: ). Very pretty girl with long hair too. I remem a discussion with her where she was saying that its really hard to find a guy. Guys just stay away. Some make it a point to snub her. And those that do approach her, are more in love with themselves than anything else, and see her as the ideal accessory (sp?).
Thankfully :roll: , I doh have that problem. :lol:
bluenote492000
10-16-2007, 01:47 PM
I wouldn’t date a guy just because he’s good looking. I’ve met a few guys who were just gorgeous but when they started to speak I really wished they wouldn’t. Turns out said guys not only couldn’t hold a decent conversation but had the IQ of cold oatmeal! Yeah my fervent wish was for them to just shut up and stay a pretty face. Yeah HUGE turn off. Attraction at least to me is more than a person just looking good, if he takes care of his mother, is responsible, has a plan for his future or is passionate about a hobby is attractive to me. Of course this is from a girl’s perspective. I have a couple of cousins who guys fall all over themselves for and these girls treat these men like dirt yet these men will spend their last cent on these girls just for the opportunity of showing their friends they have a “red ting”.
Somebody007
10-16-2007, 03:00 PM
Well i glad allyuh tink 'hot chick' go horn yuh......it have a few woman out dey that man fraid to go out wit dem cuz dey too good looking ..so dey tink "ah might as well not even try" ..."she outta meh league"...."she go only horn meh after a month"
I doh tink dat atall....den people does wonder...'how come he wit dat good lookin woman ? he musbe have money... :lol: '
one man mistake is anudder man opportunity...
This is sooooo true!
I went to school (tertiary) with a mix chick. She mix with white ppl genes so she had the colour that trini men like (yes, is a general statement, yes ah know not all men so, if u still have a problem with the statement send a pm :mrgreen: ). Very pretty girl with long hair too. I remem a discussion with her where she was saying that its really hard to find a guy. Guys just stay away. Some make it a point to snub her. And those that do approach her, are more in love with themselves than anything else, and see her as the ideal accessory (sp?).
Thankfully :roll: , I doh have that problem. :lol:
hehehehe....Serenity the way you describe that girl, yuh makin meh laugh, that brings back the ole time days......and yuh know I still love dem ole time ways.
mammadon
09-10-2008, 11:01 PM
Hello people,
Have you ever had an instance when you found out someone who is not good looking in your eyes really likes you and wanted to date you. I have tried that once before and got some much heat from my family and friends, I eventually had no choice but to distance myself from a girl I tried dating many years ago.
It is usually said that beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder and while I believe this is true, it still amazes me sometimes when I see a good looking person matching themselves up with a 'not so good looking' person. Worse yet, I sometimes hear other people making comments about other couples.....as though it is their business to comment on who someone else should pair off with for a relationship.
depends on a few things IMO.
Lots of people believe in leagues, but i don't know whether I do or not. So i guess this is one reason why people might say "why he go out with her".
And then there is personality. A good looking man might date an unattractive woman because her personality/character. And physical attraction can grow over time and doesn't have to be instant.
travelbug
09-11-2008, 05:04 AM
Even 'ugly' people need love!
I’ve stopped looking at people in ‘ugly’ terms. Instead, I look for the best physical feature, since most times that’s all I have to go on (people from afar, people watching etc).
I tend to notice how lovely someone’s eyes are, or hair, or teeth or skin etc, if they aren’t conventionally ‘good looking’.
Reason is, I treat others that way I want to be treated. I have my flaws and if I want someone to accept me for me, then I must honour them the same way.
Right now, I’m trying to get over the fact that someone who wants to date me is my height (short nah). He accepts me for me and thinks I’m absolutely gorgeous (I’m not).
I think a beautiful personality will even make someone not good looking atractive. I would never be fooled by looks because I think a lot of so called goodlooking men are full of themselfes. On the other hand, I´m not gonna bother with the Quasimodo Type either.
perijove
09-11-2008, 06:30 AM
I have met some individuals who in my opinion were very attractive physically. But once I got to know them better found out that they didn't have much to offer in terms of intelligent conversation, they couldn't stand up for anything and didn't care about anyone except themselves. I'm always repelled by such.
King B
09-12-2008, 11:06 AM
Why the hell would I do that? Why cant I have it all?
lexbarker
09-12-2008, 04:29 PM
Even 'ugly' people need love!
I’ve stopped looking at people in ‘ugly’ terms. Instead, I look for the best physical feature, since most times that’s all I have to go on (people from afar, people watching etc).
I tend to notice how lovely someone’s eyes are, or hair, or teeth or skin etc, if they aren’t conventionally ‘good looking’.
Reason is, I treat others that way I want to be treated. I have my flaws and if I want someone to accept me for me, then I must honour them the same way.
Right now, I’m trying to get over the fact that someone who wants to date me is my height (short nah). He accepts me for me and thinks I’m absolutely gorgeous (I’m not).
When yuh hardup anything would do.
mammadon
09-12-2008, 10:13 PM
What ever that means........I would gladly like to see how beautiful that person is in the inside, because like they say "true beauty lies within".
I guess. But to me it's a mix of looks and personality.
I could think "damn, she hot!" when i look at someone, but I would always take time to get to know the person after that. IMO, it's about 30% looks and 70% personality I go for.
And then a person can fall for another initially on their personality, and physical attraction can grow over time. I remember I used to work with a woman who...well I wouldn't consider people totally ugly in general, but she just wasn't someone I'd be immediately attracted to at least. But over time I thought she was attractive because of her personality and not because of her looks.
Harry Williamn
09-18-2008, 07:29 PM
Please,DEFINE ugly and maybe then we may be able to get to the bottom of this bottom!
mammadon
09-19-2008, 10:05 AM
I think looks are relative and differ from person to person or culture or culture.
But even still, and without sounding contradictory, I don't think many would find morbidly obese people attractive. Or the elephant man if he was still alive today. And I don't mean the dancehall singer lol..
snowbird
09-19-2008, 02:40 PM
Yes, would have, and did :lol: :lol: :lol: ;
sorry fellas, ah callin it as ah saw it, buh doh worry, all allyuh was 'diamonds in the rough', all allyuh lookin good now wid ah lil age on allyuh :lol: :lol: :lol:
Hyena
09-23-2008, 10:56 AM
Ugly according to who?
Everyone has their own standards of beauty. Even with all the media trying to enforce their own view of 'perfection', many many people still find 'non-conventional' people attractive. A simple example is my own girlfriend. She may be perceived as ugly by one person because she is not the supermodel ideal. But to me, she is just right.
Technically, everyone on Earth is dating an ugly person because to SOMEONE their partner is ugly.
Now what I said there is simply based on looks. If you throw personality into the situation, then ugly can take on a whole new meaning.
truempress
09-23-2008, 11:06 AM
Good day every one,
I just joined so, I would just give my 2cents worth on this topic.
Ugliness is a state of mind, a person can be "ugly" as people may think, but when you get to really know that individual they are really beautiful on the inside. The bible states it's not what goes in that defiles, but what comes out. You can be the most beautiful person in looks and nasty in ways. Tell me which is better? So please don't look at the physical appearance of the person, but always look at the heart.
Stay Bless
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