Race preferences

[Chicabonita]

1. Is there anything wrong with saying that a particular race/ethnicity of people are more attractive than another race or ethnicity or is just a matter of personal preference?

2. Is it "racist" to feel attracted to women or men of a certain race/ethnicity?

[serenity]

I think the question of racism comes from WHY u find one race attractive over another. It might be based on behavioural stereotypes for example.

I generally not attracted to white fellas.
I ent think is a race thing though bec I will happily have babies with Josh Groban. Is just the pasty skin ah doh find attractive at all man. Nicole Kidman looks great with the white white skin though - gorgeous.

[dancerboy]

1. Is there anything wrong with saying that a particular race/ethnicity of people are more attractive than another race or ethnicity or is just a matter of personal preference?

2. Is it "racist" to feel attracted to women or men of a certain race/ethnicity? It's not "racist', but it's highly impractical. How does one determine 'attractiveness' among CHINESE,JAPANESE,AFRICANS, INDIANS, etc. They all have very distinct distinguisinhg features. We tend to describe 'attractiveness' by our 'EUROPEAN' standards. This is akin to " 'CHRISTIANS' SAYING IF YOU DO NOT ACCEPT JESUS CHRIST AS YOUR LORD AND SAVIOUR YOU ARE NOT SAVE". What about the millions of people who do not subscribe to 'CHRISTIANITY.

DANCERBOY

[Somebody007]

I love meh females who have long hair growing down to dey back....I doh think that is a racist statement.....thats just meh preference.

[slightpepper[M]]

1. Is there anything wrong with saying that a particular race/ethnicity of people are more attractive than another race or ethnicity or is just a matter of personal preference?

2. Is it "racist" to feel attracted to women or men of a certain race/ethnicity?

...freedom ah choice.........it all boils down to wat yuh like....and wat makes u happy.....so everybody sing it dey......
But, If
You're Thinkin'
About My Baby
It Don't Matter If You're
Black Or White

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Go, yeah..........
do d moon walk dey ppl............ :D :D :D :D :D :mrgreen:

[guyguy]

Well, ah fine serenity's dorgs very attractive and would be even more attractive orn meh plate after ah done cook dem in meh BBQ.

[serenity]

Steups. U know, ah was going to put up a bunny eh, but ah didnt want falcon to be salivating all over he keyboard every time he come on the forum. Now u and this dotishness.

Think race and romantic interests Guy, not food and species.

[guyguy]

Think race and romantic interests Guy, not food and species.
Yuh cyar love without money
Yuh cyar make love orn hongree belly ...

[sylvestter]

1. Is there anything wrong with saying that a particular race/ethnicity of people are more attractive than another race or ethnicity or is just a matter of personal preference?

2. Is it "racist" to feel attracted to women or men of a certain race/ethnicity?

of course there's nothing wrong with that.
attraction does not equate to racism.

to each his own.

[Scorpio]

It does not make you a racist if you find a particular race unattractive, but it does raise questions about your judgement, especially if, based soley on race, if you choose to be with someone who treats you like a load of ***** instead of someone who would put you on a pedestal and treat you like the very special person you are.

[Roo]

I don't think of it as a particular race but a particular look. I like men with dark hair and green or blue eyes and caramel colored skin. I find that my daughter has the same taste. I don't care what race they are, if they look like that then I am attracted.

Guy, stop laughing and doh tell Dave, eh! :evil:

[sapodila]

I think humanity has come a very long and narrow road .........sad to think that race and ethnicity still matters in choosing a partner for life.

[alieninthecaribbean]

It's not necessarily racist unless your preference for one race is based on stereotypes and prejudice. Sort of like some black women saying,

"I don't want a black guy cause they are all good for nothing, lazy bums". That would be racist.
I saw this poor unfortunate black woman on an episode of Dr. Phil who hates black people and wishes she was white. She married a white man and would only allow her children to play or date white people. Talk about internalised self-hatred!

I agree with dancerboy about our standards of beauty being heavily influenced by colonialised European ideals. So probably it is a good idea to check and see if you have been "white-washed" by that.

Personally, I'm black and almost every single girl-friend I ever had was of African or African-mixed descent but it wasn't something I pre-planned. I just happened to fall in love them them for reasons other than race. I still in fact, have a natural attraction for black women because of a certain "familiarity" and history. If I see a sexy black woman I am definitely going to take a second gander and that's cool with me.

My current partner of ten years is white. She is the perfect yang to my ying and race really has nothing to do with it. But if you asked me twelve years ago if I would be with a white woman I would have probably laughed and said, "no not likely", only because my current circle and history of lovers excluded such a thing. Same goes for her, up till me, all her girlfriends had been white or Hispanic. If she sees a sexy white or Hispanic woman she is definitely going to take a second gander and that's cool with her.

Still, we find each other beautiful as well. You cannot let a small thing like ethnicity prevent you from finding your soul mate. There is probably the sexiest, sweetest, kindest, funniest person waiting for you and they are not in your "preferred race" or "accostomed race".

[sapodila]

Having read the post above, I was wondering if people with a sexual preference share's the same views.

[Somebody007]

It's not necessarily racist unless your preference for one race is based on stereotypes and prejudice. Sort of like some black women saying,

"I don't want a black guy cause they are all good for nothing, lazy bums". That would be racist.
I saw this poor unfortunate black woman on an episode of Dr. Phil who hates black people and wishes she was white. She married a white man and would only allow her children to play or date white people. Talk about internalised self-hatred!

I agree with dancerboy about our standards of beauty being heavily influenced by colonialised European ideals. So probably it is a good idea to check and see if you have been "white-washed" by that.

Personally, I'm black and almost every single girl-friend I ever had was of African or African-mixed descent but it wasn't something I pre-planned. I just happened to fall in love them them for reasons other than race. I still in fact, have a natural attraction for black women because of a certain "familiarity" and history. If I see a sexy black woman I am definitely going to take a second gander and that's cool with me.

My current partner of ten years is white. She is the perfect yang to my ying and race really has nothing to do with it. But if you asked me twelve years ago if I would be with a white woman I would have probably laughed and said, "no not likely", only because my current circle and history of lovers excluded such a thing. Same goes for her, up till me, all her girlfriends had been white or Hispanic. If she sees a sexy white or Hispanic woman she is definitely going to take a second gander and that's cool with her.

Still, we find each other beautiful as well. You cannot let a small thing like ethnicity prevent you from finding your soul mate. There is probably the sexiest, sweetest, kindest, funniest person waiting for you and they are not in your "preferred race" or "accostomed race".


Hiya,

Are you into alternative relationships? A lesbian I might say? Because I see you refer to your partner as a she and yet you are female.

[alieninthecaribbean]

Yup, I'm a lesbian 8-)

[alieninthecaribbean]

Having read the post above, I was wondering if people with a sexual preference share's the same views.


sapodila, I cannot make a general statement on this. However I can tell you that way back in the days of segretation in the southern United States, the only integrated socialising you would find would be in underground gay bars. There would be mixed race dancing (a scandal in those days) etc. In fact, most underground gay bars would be in the "coloured" part of town and white people who were gay, would have to cross that invisible town line to find a place where they could be themselves.

[Somebody007]

Yup, I'm a lesbian 8-)



I wish I was one mehself....unfortunately I am a male but you can call me a male lesbian if you wish because I still love meh women even if I is either male or female.......... :D :D :D :D

[Chicabonita]

I wish I was one mehself....

:shock:

[Somebody007]

I wish I was one mehself....

:shock:



:D ;) :lol: 8-)

[snowbird]

I prefer the human race mehself, buh daz jus me :lol:

[one_love]

i like women of all colors.

[sheppy]

LOL somebody007 love women soo much that even if he was a woman he'd still love them...
dat is love... :?


i doh tink i have a race preference....i have a body type preference...certain races tend to naturally fulfill these qualities..therefore i'm usually more drawn to these women physically...but usually not mentally or spiritually...so it never quite works out...

but lately...i've been pleasantly suprised by the hybrids that are emerging... God bless em :mrgreen:

[serenity]

i doh tink i have a race preference....i have a body type preference...certain races tend to naturally fulfill these qualities..therefore i'm usually more drawn to these women physically...but usually not mentally or spiritually...so it never quite works out...



So the same races that have the body doh have the mind that u find attractive? Treading a dangerous line there sheppy. U like Lana, she is a very pretty, skinny girl. They have plenty of that in all races...

[sheppy]

LOL no i not really saying that actually...
i not sayin i find chinee girls have a nice body but not a nice brain...

is a different generalization ;) i find really good-looking women are not always as interested in the development of other aspects of their lives...The insinuation that it may also be more predominant in certain races is also a generalization...but its been my experience...and therefore my own personal narrow-minded opinion :)

We had a thread on this already...where if you are acustommed to using your good-looks to get by, less attention is paid to the development of other skills/aspects of your life.

Hence one of my favourite quotes was " when you reach 40 you better have a personality....good looks and long legs won't last forever"

[sheppy]

btw..Lana is hot..but not the body type i was referring to...
I think movie stars are unrealistic ideals to base any real preference on....

Aish is hot, jessica alba, halle berry, kristin etc...i mean the majority of women on television have some appeal, but they've been carefully groomed and dieted and air brushed to perfection.

[Devil]

there is going to be a lot of generalization here-- but its about personal preference.. we all have them.

Firstly, a beautiful woman is a beautiful woman, regardless of race. The real defining factor is the cultures they grew up in.

I actually find the average asian (chinese/vietanamese/korean) etc. physically unappealing, but right now I have a sweet Japanese girl i see ever so often- and have been with korean and chinese women in the past.

Among white women, i find the most appealing to be red heads, yes they are pale as hell, but there is something that just get me going. Blondes, to me are more physically stunning than sexually attractive. I tend to date brunettes or women with dark hair and dark eyes. Culturally, women from the eastern block are simply amazing, they can very intelligent, refined, amazing tastes, easy going, great sense of humor and fun to be with- a combination that is rare for women who were born and raised in the US & Canada. My favourites are Bulgarian, Russian and Serbian women.. oh Serbian women haha! :)

I also find Indian women very attractive, but i have a lot of cultural and personal issues that makes relationships with them very difficult- they only relationship i had with an indian girl was my 1st relationship, every time since then all my attempts have been like pulling teeth!

Black women from Africa and the Caribbean are very different to black women in the US/Canada. I love African women, and have dated a few in my time, with my longest relationship being a black girl in Trinidad. I saw an Angolan woman who was a professional dancer for a while-- it was some of the best sex i had in a long time-- too bad she kept rabbits for pets and i would leave her place with flea bites (i had a similar experience with an amazing sexy French woman who kept cats and i would leave feeling dirty with cat hair all over me)

Culturally i find Indian and Asian women the least attractive since they tend to be clingy and very status/money oriented.

[Double Trouble]

All my preferences will be out the window, if I am stranded on a deserted island with a woman. This woman doesn't even have to be good looking.

[guyguy]

All my preferences will be out the window, if I am stranded on a deserted island with a woman. This woman doesn't even have to be good looking.
What about if you're stranded with a man?

[Double Trouble]

All my preferences will be out the window, if I am stranded on a deserted island with a woman. This woman doesn't even have to be good looking.
What about if you're stranded with a man?

guy,

It all depends on the race of the man. If he's an Indian man, he'd probably get drunk and beat me up everyday. A Black man will most likely abandon me. So, it will have to be ah Chinaman for me.

[skl]

[quote="Double Trouble":yrwptudc]All my preferences will be out the window, if I am stranded on a deserted island with a woman. This woman doesn't even have to be good looking.
What about if you're stranded with a man?

guy,

It all depends on the race of the man. If he's an Indian man, he'd probably get drunk and beat me up everyday. A Black man will most likely abandon me. So, it will have to be ah Chinaman for me.[/quote:yrwptudc]


:lol: :lol: :lol: like you racial agianst white men ??? :D kicks boy.

[punjabtrini]

Firstly, a beautiful woman is a beautiful woman, regardless of race. The real defining factor is the cultures they grew up in.
I actually find the average asian (chinese/vietanamese/korean) etc. physically unappealing, but right now I have a sweet Japanese girl i see ever so often- and have been with korean and chinese women in the past.
Culturally, women from the eastern block are simply amazing, they can very intelligent, refined, amazing tastes, easy going, great sense of humor and fun to be with- a combination that is rare for women who were born and raised in the US & Canada. My favourites are Bulgarian, Russian and Serbian women.. oh Serbian women haha! :)
I also find Indian women very attractive, but i have a lot of cultural and personal issues that makes relationships with them very difficult- they only relationship i had with an indian girl was my 1st relationship, every time since then all my attempts have been like pulling teeth!

Black women from Africa and the Caribbean are very different to black women in the US/Canada. Culturally i find Indian and Asian women the least attractive since they tend to be clingy and very status/money oriented.

Excellent points!
1. Eastern European are vey cultured and physically appealing especially those from the Ukraine and Yugoslavia regardless of affiliation. An ex from Yugoslavia (Serb/Muslim) was da bomb and a great physical presence.

2. African women have a different personality from black American women and they just jell perfectly with me. Friendly, down to earth and very feminine! This is not to say black American women are less feminine but the appeal factor of African women could melt your soul!

3. Japanese women are indeed different the rest of Asian women and my ex Japanese and Okinawan girl friends were all so 'perfect' that I almost brought them back to the 'world'! Then they would turn American on me!!! I was stationed in Okinawa while in military!
The joke is that when foreign women leave their country they adopt American customs seeing the advantages that can get while in USA!

4. Indian women (India) are different from T&T, Guyana and Suriname so it will depend on your professional affiliation. Women from South India seem more real to me then their northern counterparts and are at times more approachable!

[dancerboy]

Having read the post above, I was wondering if people with a sexual preference share's the same views.


sapodila, I cannot make a general statement on this. However I can tell you that way back in the days of segretation in the southern United States, the only integrated socialising you would find would be in underground gay bars. There would be mixed race dancing (a scandal in those days) etc. In fact, most underground gay bars would be in the "coloured" part of town and white people who were gay, would have to cross that invisible town line to find a place where they could be themselves. They were called JUKE JOINTS,and later became known as SPEAK EASY. They were also generally, illegal joints. Back in those days, the word 'GAY' had an entirely different denotation, as oppose to the present-day connotation.

DANCERBOY

[dancerboy]

there is going to be a lot of generalization here-- but its about personal preference.. we all have them.

Firstly, a beautiful woman is a beautiful woman, regardless of race. The real defining factor is the cultures they grew up in.

I actually find the average asian (chinese/vietanamese/korean) etc. physically unappealing, but right now I have a sweet Japanese girl i see ever so often- and have been with korean and chinese women in the past.

Among white women, i find the most appealing to be red heads, yes they are pale as hell, but there is something that just get me going. Blondes, to me are more physically stunning than sexually attractive. I tend to date brunettes or women with dark hair and dark eyes. Culturally, women from the eastern block are simply amazing, they can very intelligent, refined, amazing tastes, easy going, great sense of humor and fun to be with- a combination that is rare for women who were born and raised in the US & Canada. My favourites are Bulgarian, Russian and Serbian women.. oh Serbian women haha! :)

I also find Indian women very attractive, but i have a lot of cultural and personal issues that makes relationships with them very difficult- they only relationship i had with an indian girl was my 1st relationship, every time since then all my attempts have been like pulling teeth!

Black women from Africa and the Caribbean are very different to black women in the US/Canada. I love African women, and have dated a few in my time, with my longest relationship being a black girl in Trinidad. I saw an Angolan woman who was a professional dancer for a while-- it was some of the best sex i had in a long time-- too bad she kept rabbits for pets and i would leave her place with flea bites (i had a similar experience with an amazing sexy French woman who kept cats and i would leave feeling dirty with cat hair all over me)

Culturally i find Indian and Asian women the least attractive since they tend to be clingy and very status/money oriented. You sound like WHORE !

DANCERBOY

[Devil]

I'm not a whore.. just a complete slut!

[dancerboy]

I'm not a whore.. just a complete slut!
Iam an incomplete slot.

DANCERBOY

[mammadon]

I have a racial/ethnic preference, and I couldn't give a hoot if anybody is offended by it. It's my choice and thus my right! A white American man might only choose to date blondes, and no one really cares if he does. It's his prerogative in the end.

And I'm not a racist nor judge groups based on misguided stereotypes of them. Stereotypes are obviously silly since people are individuals. To me my preference is about aesthetics only.

[trinidadobserved]

1. Is there anything wrong with saying that a particular race/ethnicity of people are more attractive than another race or ethnicity or is just a matter of personal preference?

2. Is it "racist" to feel attracted to women or men of a certain race/ethnicity?

1. Yes. Not all people of any one "race" (whatever that is) look alike.

2. Only? As long as you don't make it a policy.

[Huma]

I can honestly say that race doesn't affect how attractive a woman is to me. Way too many beautiful women across the spectrum for me to talk sht about I only like Race X or I don't like Race Y.

Caveat: In my single days race would definitely have affected my choice to pursue a woman.

I'm very wary of people who say they're not attracted to certain races. Very wary. It has to boil down to physical beauty, and the fact that your mind doesn't allow you to see physical beauty because of race points to something very sinister, in my opinion. Preference are rarely arbitrary. Most of the time you can explain just why you like something, or more importantly in this case, why you don't like something.

"It's just my preference" has never sat well with me at all. I find people should always be brave enough to say why they feel how they feel.

[letric]

Living in Europe found relationship with Black women difficult, they always expect...gimme...gimme......The European woman only wanted me, not what I had to give.

[Amelia]

There are attractive fellas in all races. But I have a race preference for a relationship. It has less to do with the race and more to do with cultural and religious compatibility.

[Mr Majik]

I have absolutely no problem with people who will only date 1 specific race, as long as they are of the same race. When someone will only date members of a race they do not belong to then I have issues.
If you cannot find the beauty in your own race then it follows you cannot find your own beauty. I need a woman that not only I find beautiful. She must also be aware of her own beauty (and I don't mean stereotypical attractiveness).

When I see women the only colour I studying is pink...;)

[ebony02]

MrMajik we don't all have pink eh. Steups.

[ebony02]

Personally I have dated men of different races and nationalities (Afro Caribbean, African American, Russian, Jewish, Anglo-White) and have found myself most comfortable with men closer to my hue. Initially I only exclusively dated White due to a color complex, but later matured and dated black men. Right now, I don't think I can date white men again, for the very reason that he may not understand me culturally or may not be able to bond with me on varying experiences (ie having to explain to him why I wear a durag or satin bonnet to bed; why my hair isn't straight but afro-textured; the racism I encounter, etc.).

[Amelia]

Personally I have dated men of different races and nationalities (Afro Caribbean, African American, Russian, Jewish, Anglo-White) and have found myself most comfortable with men closer to my hue. .

Are u speaking skin colour as well as race?

[ebony02]

Skin color solely. I am however open to be proven wrong though. As long as he isn't White. Sorry, but based on my experience, they are mostly in it for the "exotic" experience and the impression of a black woman's bedroom acrobatics.

[ebony02]

So according to some men on this forum, Indian women = clingy, money hungry golddiggers. Where are the East Indian women to defend themselves?

[Amelia]

Skin color solely. I am however open to be proven wrong though. As long as he isn't White. Sorry, but based on my experience, they are mostly in it for the "exotic" experience and the impression of a black woman's bedroom acrobatics.

So u date brown men regardless of race? :humm:
First time ah hearing of that particular preference.
Ah want to discuss the merit of that preference eh, but I eh have time now.
Ah will check yuh later.

[Amelia]

So according to some men on this forum, Indian women = clingy, money hungry golddiggers. Where are the East Indian women to defend themselves?


Why bother to defend? If dais the man experience then ah sorry to hear that. It eh me he talking bout so I eh business.

Is the same reason the trini fellas here eh bother to correct yuh skewed perception of them being only interested in keeping women barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen. ;)

[lexbarker]

Skin color solely. I am however open to be proven wrong though. As long as he isn't White. Sorry, but based on my experience, they are mostly in it for the "exotic" experience and the impression of a black woman's bedroom acrobatics.
Ebs gyul, any man, any race wants an acrobatic woman. This is the closest definition of heaven.

[ebony02]

True, and black women are generally considered the best of the group and many white men would exclusively date black because of this.

[shield_2006]

I do like nobody who doh like me.

[Amelia]

Skin color solely. I am however open to be proven wrong though. As long as he isn't White. Sorry, but based on my experience, they are mostly in it for the "exotic" experience and the impression of a black woman's bedroom acrobatics.

So u date brown men regardless of race? :humm:
First time ah hearing of that particular preference.
Ah want to discuss the merit of that preference eh, but I eh have time now.
Ah will check yuh later.

Ok, ah back.
Is my interpretation correct ebs?

[ebony02]

Amelia, not necessarily brown men, but, men with Afro- influence. So okay, that's two preferences; I am thus far attracted to darker skinned men and men of Afro- influence.

[shield_2006]

I doh want mih girls fighting over me at all. :ffox:

[Amelia]

Amelia, not necessarily brown men, but, men with Afro- influence. So okay, that's two preferences; I am thus far attracted to darker skinned men and men of Afro- influence.

Whew! When yuh say skin colour solely ah start to worry bout u oui!

[Amelia]

I doh want mih girls fighting over me at all. :ffox:
what mammoo going on about? :humm:

[ebony02]

LOL @ Shields. I doh tackle no marrid men and I cyar speak for Amelia buh ah feel she goh say d same :lol:

[Amelia]

YUh eh see the pic of mammoo wife or wha?
Even if I was inclined to tacle meh own mammoo ( [smilie=bad.gif] ), I eh stand a chance.
Besides, ah feel saltfish go put a hit on on meh. She always talking bout she 'kiss'. ;) :lol:

[Didi]

My prefference: He has to belong to the human race.I dont even like the term race. So, looks are not important but charater is. I have my limits of course, any religious fanatic ( of any religion) would be a no go!

[Chicabonita]

What about if you're not attracted to a certain race/ethnicity? Wrong or preference?

[deathwinger]

What about if you're not attracted to a certain race/ethnicity? Wrong or preference?

Nothing is wrong with that. Its just not your preference. Its subtle racism and nothing is wrong with that cause everybody's a little bit racist.

[Chicabonita]

Its subtle racism and nothing is wrong with that cause everybody's a little bit racist.

Racism or prejudice?

[Angie]

YUh eh see the pic of mammoo wife or wha?
Even if I was inclined to tacle meh own mammoo ( [smilie=bad.gif] ), I eh stand a chance.
Besides, ah feel saltfish go put a hit on on meh. She always talking bout she 'kiss'. ;) :lol:


NAH, Kiss like red oman and me eh red .. so me eh stand a chance wid he :cry: :cry:

[ebony02]

Chica, it is considered racism if you feel your race/culture is superior to another, and as such the people of those other races should be seen and treated as inferior. It is a prejudice if you have a particular bias or preference to an idea or scenario. As such, you are prejudice, like most if not all of us.

[Amelia]

How can u find an entire race unattractive?!

[ebony02]

Amelia, you incorrectly assume that attraction is always a factor in choosing a mate. It is not. Personally, I don't find find white men unattracted as a whole, however, I do believe a man of color will better be able to understand me than a white man. Oh, and I don't consider Trini "whites", White. :lol:

[Amelia]

I am not assuming anything. Perhaps I should have clarified that I was responding specifically to this comment by chica:


What about if you're not attracted to a certain race/ethnicity? Wrong or preference?

[ebony02]

But you are. Based on your comment one must be attracted to choose a mate and if one has a preference of choosing one race over another, the latter of races is not considered as attractive and/or desirable. I am arguing that attraction is not always reason behind such biases. One can still see one race of people attractive but will not date/marry them.

[Amelia]

Ebs, listen carefully.
Chica said
What about if you're not attracted to a certain race/ethnicity?
U saying
One can still see one race of people attractive but ...

Do u see how its different?

[ebony02]

Got it.

[Amelia]

Good.
So, back to my question: How can u find an entire race unattractive?!

[Chicabonita]

Okay how to put it in words....

I am not talking about an ENTIRE race but generally not feeling attracted to people from a particular race (yes, there are exceptions) but generally, you do not feel attracted to them.

Is that racism EVEN if you do not see them as inferior but SIMPLY it is not what you're attracted to?

[Amelia]

I thinks it borders racism at the very least.
Cant be coincidental that NOBODY from the race appeals to u.
There must be something more influencing ur attraction or lack thereof than simply 'me eh feeling it'.

[Chicabonita]

Cant be coincidental that NOBODY from the race appeals to u.
.


But that's the point, I didnt say NOBODY, but generally speaking NOT attracted to that particular race/ethnicity. A person may find few people from that particular race attractive but generally not.

[sacky]

Cant be coincidental that NOBODY from the race appeals to u.
.


But that's the point, I didnt say NOBODY, but generally speaking NOT attracted to that particular race/ethnicity. A person may find few people from that particular race attractive but generally not.


well i hate the jews for what they do to palestinians,what reason,would you have for hating any race ?

[Chicabonita]

Cant be coincidental that NOBODY from the race appeals to u.
.


But that's the point, I didnt say NOBODY, but generally speaking NOT attracted to that particular race/ethnicity. A person may find few people from that particular race attractive but generally not.


well i hate the jews for what they do to palestinians,what reason,would you have for hating any race ?

Do you read at all? Where do I say I hate any particular race? :roll:

[sacky]

because i is trini and dont put water in me mouth to talk

[Chicabonita]

because i is trini and dont put water in me mouth to talk

You're a lost case. :roll:

[sacky]

but you still cant say,what made you start the thread :o :o :o

[deathwinger]

Somebody probably asked her the question and she couldn't answer.

I say, if that's your preference or discrimination, live with it. Who cares what other people think? Seriously, most people who scream race in an issue are normally the first ones to notice it and thus, the real racist themselves.

[sacky]

theres a hidden agenda here,and maybe one day she will come clean and say :bball:

[snowbird]

Cant be coincidental that NOBODY from the race appeals to u.
.


But that's the point, I didnt say NOBODY, but generally speaking NOT attracted to that particular race/ethnicity. A person may find few people from that particular race attractive but generally not.


well i hate the jews for what they do to palestinians,what reason,would you have for hating any race ?

I don't hate the Jews..... I but I hate their politics with a passion.......if I met a Jew who was abhored at their politics as I was .....I'd marry him (if ah needed ah husband :lol: )

[sacky]

ah snow i stand corrected. :salut: :salut: :salut:

[Chicabonita]

theres a hidden agenda here,and maybe one day she will come clean and say :bball:

:roll:

[mammadon]

What about if you're not attracted to a certain race/ethnicity? Wrong or preference?

Nothing is wrong with that. Its just not your preference. Its subtle racism and nothing is wrong with that cause everybody's a little bit racist.

How is it prejudice?

i think more often than not, it's aesthetics.

If a man say he eh like blonde hair, he hates blondes and deems them inferior?

[Huma]

"It's just my preference" has never sat well with me at all.

I find people should always be brave enough to say why they feel how they feel.


We're all adults here. It shouldn't be difficult to describe what turns you off of a person in some level of detail.

[Rozy Red]

I agree Huma, all the questioning and generalising and tiptoeing without coming right out and saying what your position is... Unproductive.

Personally, I am mostly attracted to nonBlack men. Maybe growing up in South as the only 'Black' family in our neighborhood had a part to play. Maybe Im just wired to be intrigued by trying something 'different' than my own as evidenced by my love of the study of foreign languages and cultures. Apart from the 'environmental' and 'innate' factors there is an experiential component. Most Black men that I've had experience with have not been good matches for me in terms of finding a mate. So sad to say, I've stopped looking in that direction. Let us be clear I do not written off ALL Black men nor am I ashamed of my own race. But when it comes to intimacy and the long term stuff that go beyond looks, there are some cultural influences that can turn me off.

I guess in that respect my experiences have been opposite to Ebony. I've had very few cultural clashes with the non Black men in my life... [And when I say 'culture' Im referring more to 'value systems' and 'way of life' not so much food, music, etc]. My current bf has never had issue with my durag or my once-in-a-while hair extensions. There's much more we have in common and the little quirks come with the territory.

[ebony02]

Rozy, can you elaborate on the "some cultural influences that can turn you off" as it applies to the black male? And I am happy you have found someone you can connect with; I guess that's all that matters at the end.

[Rozy Red]

Well girl, I can only speak for the ones I've dealt with and the ones that slow down their cars to make comments as I go about my business/ walk up to me in clubs etc.

I cannot handle the overpowering sense that the have something to prove/the sense that having a certain 'swagger' denotes superiority or importance/ tendency to attach high importance to outward appearance/ the insecurity of understanding the role of a woman other than their mothers/ the tendency to be easily threatened/ the apparent lack of understanding of how to show open affection without coming across as being 'soft'/ the 'I'll get you before you get me' mentality.... etc etc....

Again, I am in no way suggesting that this is the case with ALL Black men. And I am aware that these traits can be found in men of all races. Purely anecdotal to my experience.

[shield_2006]

Boy I so glad I not young and looking for a girlfriend-I sorry for dem young fellas oui-because allyuh young guyl have so many specifications allyuh might as well date a 1/4 mile drag car oui.

I could imagine wah is must be like approaching one ah allyuh with all them mistakes to be made in the first thirty seconds-dammmm.

Thank God for speed dating.

This internet generation taking away all the mystery from romance.

[Parvati]

Speed dating? Lord have mussy, what next, arrange marriage?

[shield_2006]

Speed dating? Lord have mussy, what next, arrange marriage?

It have dat arreddy-arranged by a relationship consultant. Imagine yuh have to go to an intermediary to buss a lyrics for you. The guyl dem doh want no direct lyrics-it too trite and the possibility of being interpreted as

"I cannot handle the overpowering sense that the have something to prove/the sense that having a certain 'swagger' denotes superiority or importance/ tendency to attach high importance to outward appearance/ the insecurity of understanding the role of a woman other than their mothers/ the tendency to be easily threatened/ the apparent lack of understanding of how to show open affection without coming across as being 'soft'/ the 'I'll get you before you get me' mentality.... etc etc...."

Long time this wiidda cause bachanaal-somebody widda arkse yuh " How mih mudder reach in this? Fight. :lol: :lol:

What's a young man to do? Practice safe sex- a la Iwer George- hana hana hana.

[dancerboy]

Boy I so glad I not young and looking for a girlfriend-I sorry for dem young fellas oui-because allyuh young guyl have so many specifications allyuh might as well date a 1/4 mile drag car oui.

I could imagine wah is must be like approaching one ah allyuh with all them mistakes to be made in the first thirty seconds-dammmm.

Thank God for speed dating.

This internet generation taking away all the mystery from romance.

SHIELD my friend, this sh45T is getting scary. You and i (eye) are actually seeing I TO I.


DANCERBOY

[Parvati]

Young men these days not easy themselves, can you blame the women for being cautious.

[Rozy Red]

Precisely.

[dancerboy]

but you still cant say,what made you start the thread :o :o :o

What difference would it make ?.

AS OF TOMORROW, ANYONE STARTING A THREAD MUST GIVE A REASON FOR DOING SO.


DANCERBOY

[snowbird]

but you still cant say,what made you start the thread :o :o :o

What difference would it make ?.

AS OF TOMORROW, ANYONE STARTING A THREAD MUST GIVE A REASON FOR DOING SO.


DANCERBOY

Oh gorm....there goes Snowbird and she mindless frens :( ..... ah wonder what other forum ah cud go 'park up on' :humm:

[Mr Majik]

hahaha...ah nearly dead with laugh oui...


[paraphrased]Me eh like dem kinda people because of dis and dat. Ah know it have people like dat everywey yuh look but is only de ones who look like me does get mih goat.
Not all a dem bad eh, but ah puttin all in de barrel just de same.[paraphrased]

[sacky]

but you still cant say,what made you start the thread :o :o :o

What difference would it make ?.

AS OF TOMORROW, ANYONE STARTING A THREAD MUST GIVE A REASON FOR DOING SO.


DANCERBOY

well dancer you could become she mouth piece :lol: :lol:

[Misha]

Sheppy - 'but lately...i've been pleasantly suprised by the hybrids that are emerging... God bless em'

LMAO! I concur!

[Double Trouble]

Personally I have dated men of different races and nationalities (Afro Caribbean, African American, Russian, Jewish, Anglo-White) and have found myself most comfortable with men closer to my hue. Initially I only exclusively dated White due to a color complex, but later matured and dated black men. Right now, I don't think I can date white men again, for the very reason that he may not understand me culturally or may not be able to bond with me on varying experiences (ie having to explain to him why I wear a durag or satin bonnet to bed; why my hair isn't straight but afro-textured; the racism I encounter, etc.).

ebony,

I could understand the proverbial bag over the head but this durag thingy does baffle my arse to no end. So, if you don't mind, what's with the durag in bed about?