Rumours about u at work

[serenity]

Ever been the victim of one? How allyuh does handle that?

[vaio]

ppl will talk no matter what... and if they don't like you then they will find anything under the sun to say about you... you cannot take on the rumours... it will just drive you crazy... and if you try to dispel them.... it won't really help..

What i do?.. ignore it and go about my business...

[lifehater]

I would also ignore and carry on with my day! I have no time to deal with SH*T.

[Falcon]

best advice already given twice.

ignore it.
the people who started it will eventually be found out for lack of supporting evidence.
the people who believe it are no better than the people who start it.

from previous stories about work, you dont share that space with the brightest or classiest bulbs around; so just be the best you can be, and leave them be. When you rising to the top of your game, you will pass by many dregs, on their way down :P

[vaio]

agreed... ppl will always gossip..sometimes i feel its jealously on their part and they just trying to bring you down..

[Scorpio]

Yep, I have found that it's usually jealousy that makes people bad talk others behind they back.

I say ignore it

[Solachica]

In my line of work sometimes being the only female I am fuel for gossip.
I've learnt a long time ago to ignore it. Then they see they get no reaction and its no fun anymore.
The amt of man I been with and the amt of times people wife cuss me out and me breaking up marriages you wud not believe.
Becos of the rumours I have had my share of co workers wives calling me and wanting to get on like george street jammettes. :lol:

[Solachica]

Oh and my natural reaction is to smile when am talking.
Tht smiling behaviour has gotten me in so much trouble at times.
Many people get the wrong idea when you smile with them. :lol:
But thts just me and I keep getting into spots with it.

[serenity]

best advice already given twice.

ignore it.
the people who started it will eventually be found out for lack of supporting evidence.
the people who believe it are no better than the people who start it.

from previous stories about work, you dont share that space with the brightest or classiest bulbs around; so just be the best you can be, and leave them be. When you rising to the top of your game, you will pass by many dregs, on their way down :P


Oh gorm Falcon! I didnt realise I made them sound so bad! Nah man, they not that bad. And it have some real bright bulbs in here..an honour to work among those.

I find now that there are rumours floating around about me and a colleague being 'together'. Then the next week I'm paired with someone else from IT who came to check my computer. Another guy recently joined our department and just today I was asked to confirm the new story that's floating around that he asked me out. Geez! You'd swear I'm a real hot-up ting! By the time I leave here I would have been with every man in the building! Its a lil disturbing bec its so easy for u to get a rep in this profession where everybody business does be discussed over cocktails.

[serenity]

Solachica u sound like u know what I may be dealing with except my dept full of women and its women starting the rumours. Everytime a guy from one of the floors pass to check me or just lime a 2 mins, I see eyebrows raise and I know by the time next week rolls around, thats one more guy I've been with.

[lexbarker]

Just ignore it. It will die out in time.

[sheppy]

well that seems like classic woman on woman jealousy....once it isn't detrimental to your career or affects your ability to perform your job to the best of your ability... is of no consequence..i know it will bother you..(it bothers most people to know they are being discussed behind their backs) but you can't do anything about it....

:arrow: let dem talk...take it as a compliment people are so interested in your life and jealous, that they must spread rumours and talk about you behind your back... (the worst thing to do is to try and start a rumour of your own for revenge...)


just remember how it feels the next time u get caught in the middle of a piece of gossip...do not encourage it or pass it along...

[IN-A-QUANDRY]

I was a victim of a rumour last year. However, I must admit that one has to watch what one says and does in the workplace. Do not bring controversial stuff to the workplace and do not watch things that u don't want people to find out about since internet technicians can get into your internet accounts. I understand that IT people programme the system to bring up sites that have certain keywords. People are spying on u without u knowing it!!

Please note that what you do in public is public news. And people make fun out of what u do with colleagues and friends in the workplace.

[Scorpio]

Every girl I talk to, farse people does say I sleeping with them, damn good thing my gf trust me yes. ;)

[sylvestter]

serenity - you just love to be at the centre of bacchanal eh?
why you donh just ignore the rumours?

[kayt]

I've never had this, too busy with other stuff I suppose and I don't participate in gossip either.

[serenity]

serenity - you just love to be at the centre of bacchanal eh?
why you donh just ignore the rumours?

:lol: Boy! I does just be amazed that these things actually happen to me...

[Solachica]

You know you don't have to participate in gossip to get into it.
And you being busy don't mean tht other people aren't calling your name in thing.
Staying away causes gossip to. I've also learnt tht. Becos I ent have anything to do with some people they does talk abt me for tht to. :lol:

[KFCSpicy]

Talk is cheap as hell and opinions are like butt holes...everyone has them and they most often stink. Move along from that. If it bothers u that much publicly bring it up and embarrass the gossipers. It may not stop it but they will be too shame to carry it on for yuh to hear in de future.

Wish yuh luck on dat...it happens in all work places. I came to work one day and by the end of the day I heard that everyone on 3rd floor of my office knew that I wore a red dress with red heels to work. Ummm the thing is I doh venture upstairs ah tall... I does be back and forth from printer to desk to latrine. So how dem know what I wear to work?

Flattering or Scary? So not interested in either outcome. Yuh get meh??

[Solachica]

:lol:
I does be in a certain office once every 2 weeks and I heard them talking abt me once. But this time it was the ladies and not the men. They were talking abt my jewellery. :lol:

[IN-A-QUANDRY]

My girlfriend told me that a lot of gossip takes place at her workplace (who sleeps with who, who is gay etc.) At my workplace I never heard rumours of people sleeping with anyone so I see that she has it worse!

[Somebody007]

My girlfriend told me that a lot of gossip takes place at her workplace (who sleeps with who, who is gay etc.) At my workplace I never heard rumours of people sleeping with anyone so I see that she has it worse!

What sort of place does your girlfriend work in??? Usually, a place with alot of women does have alot of gossip to talk about.....for example, female telephone operators working in Telecommunications.....or a number of scretaries and predominantly female staff in an office....alot of gossip goes on there.

[serenity]

Doh even start with those sexist comments eh Somebody! :lol:
Men does gossip plenty! Ent it was u self who did tell meh bout the forumite who... :twisted:

[Solachica]

Nah in my case I know men does gossip to.

[Somebody007]

Doh even start with those sexist comments eh Somebody! :lol:
Men does gossip plenty! Ent it was u self who did tell meh bout the forumite who... :twisted:


It have some female forumites who wanted to come on my case personally....lol..

[Somebody007]

Nah in my case I know men does gossip to.


That is true, men does gossip, buh who does really gossip more....the men or d women.... :D :D

[sheppy]

well men an women does gossip bout different tings .....what a woman find important to gossip about...man cud give a toe hair
and vice versa..(though women might have to give a eye lash cuz i tink dey does shave dey toe hair...)

[IN-A-QUANDRY]

My girlfriend told me that a lot of gossip takes place at her workplace (who sleeps with who, who is gay etc.) At my workplace I never heard rumours of people sleeping with anyone so I see that she has it worse!

What sort of place does your girlfriend work in??? Usually, a place with alot of women does have alot of gossip to talk about.....for example, female telephone operators working in Telecommunications.....or a number of scretaries and predominantly female staff in an office....alot of gossip goes on there.

Yes, she works at a Credit Union and yes, there are a lot of women!

[KFCSpicy]

men to me are the worst gossips...plus they never get stuff right and they exaggerate everything too.

[Mivo]

I am a likable quiet person at work as far as I know no one gossip about me, we have a mix of men an women and we all get along well

[KFCSpicy]

whey u working in DRETCHI? Cause people does talk...even if they saying oh gorm why he so quiest or ah doh trust she, she too quiet. :roll:

[sheppy]

lol ^^^ stop the silence... :lol:

anyway is true...everybody does gossip...is almost a characteristic of being a trini...it doh all havta be bad tho...