Compliments...

[KFCSpicy]

How do u cope with them? I am suspicious of peoples motives all the time, sad but realistically true. So when I get complimented over anything from what I wear, a piece of work I complete or just anything really I get nervous or feel like ah getting mamaguyed big time by some really insincere b.s.

Some people u can tell genuinely mean well, yet I feel so uncomfortable being given accolades or compliments.

Should one just chill da hell out and enjoy the compliments or should one be ever watchful for the other shoe to drop?

Are u a complimenter? Or do u like getting complimented and acknowledged all the time?


Please discuss if u care to.

[Falcon]

Social relations.

The few, very few compliments I get, I cherish, and smile. It's just words, not money. So I don't owe anyone anything except normal kind service.

[littleone]

i like you K, i cyah handle no compliments.
but i enjoy giving people there due accolades.

[KFCSpicy]

^^but words have power Falcon so they may not have monetary value but they do effect changes in people and situations.

I think you are good at the way u deal with stuff on the administrative side of the forum, for that u should be commended. you don't denigrate or belittle with your approach and u definitely do not condescend to anyone on here. You are a born peace maker and rationaliser.

[Falcon]

Again, I will take that compliment even though many others may vehemently disagree with you on that point.
What effect in people and situations??
What power do words carry? Because if they did then that's manipulation isnt it?

[Scorpio]

Allayuh never went to a Dale Carneigie course or what ? Teh best way to get people to do what yuh wnat is to lie yuh arse off about how wonderfully great they are and make dem feel like the best thing since sliced bread. :D

[KFCSpicy]

I think it's because in the end words are all that's left. they echo through the years from generation to generation via books, film music. Music moves people, books inspire us, films makes us laugh or cry...in the end they are all words.

Hitler and many like him had the power of words, manipulation yes but some would call it charisma too.

[Scorpio]

Again, I will take that compliment


So falcon, this is a serious question, did you consider that maybe K was mamaguaying you with that compliment ?

[Falcon]

That's why I would have been guarded with referring to it as that compliment. Either way I was covered. Mamaguy or not from her, I know what I believe, and of course that is correct.

This is an excellent example Scorpio. What power do you think she would have gained with her kind words?

[Scorpio]

I'm not saying that it was or was not a genuine compliment, I was just wondering if you bought it wholesale or not.

I can't answer your question about what she would have gained, because I don't pretend to undersatnd women. (don't take that personally K, you know you'll always be the chicken in meh chips) :D

[Falcon]

I bought it. Mainly because, it was harmless.
You see, if it is true, then fine. And if it's false then fine. because there was no power attributed to the words in MY mind, then it was harmless, and if wrong, I move on, and she goes in a 'person who mamaguys'-box!

[Scorpio]

So you're saying that you bought it because you could not discern a plausible ulterior motive ?

Interestingly, most people hide their ulterior motives when attempting to maniuplate others.

I never take compliments as anything but atttempted manipulation.

[Falcon]

No! I said I bought it because at best it was accepting a compliment, and at worst it was harmless.

You said you never take compliments as anything but manipulation; but surely you must qualify that. Of course your immediate family are exempt from that rule, and your best friends. How about your mates at work? Where do you draw the line?

[Scorpio]

Ok, so you're saying that the compliment would have no effect on you..

Family and co-workers are capable of manipulation too you know ...

My best friend and I don't go around complimenting each other...we don't need to, we speak less than once per month, and see each other less than once per year, yet our friendship persists because it is genuine.

[sapodila]

I do receive compliments and I do compliment from time to time... it depends. I never compliment unless it / who/ whom deserves to receive a genuine compliment. MOST compliments I have received were empty, unfeeling and just a waste of energy. Then there are the few genuine heartfelt compliments. It's not money, however, I believe credit is deserved where credit is due.

[KFCSpicy]

i agree Saps.

For the record to my now divorced scorpio :evil: i was genuine. i doh have the patience to lie and manipulate along those lines, cause i am one of those expressive people who cannot hide how they really feel so why bother?

The character displayed by Falcon on here is worthy of compliment as i said in another post some people need to be told when they are doing a great job. It hurts no one when u do so but alleviates and encourages.

[serenity]

I give compliments fairly regularly i think. I doh bs ppl so its all genuine. If I like your earrings, I'll tell u those are pretty earrings. I have no problem receiving compliments either. Its just a matter of smiling and saying 'thank u'. Whether the person is genuine or not is not my problem. The only compliments that I cherish and play over in my mind at the end of the day are those pertaining to my work, from ppl who know. And these compliments I imagine would be genuine since the ppl giving them really have nothing to gain from mamaguying me. Bec trust me, when u do crap they ent mind telling u (and in front the whole world too).

You know whats nice though? A random man on the street telling u, very politely, 'good morning miss, I just want to say u look very beautiful this morning and have a nice day.' Its unexpected and just...nice. We eh talkin bout the 'Famaleeeee', fondling themselves types eh.

Compliments are nice. I give them freely and sincerely and love getting them too. :D

[dancerboy]

COMPLIMENTS ARE LIKE PERFUME, THEY SHOULD BE SMELT, AND NOT SWALLOWED. DANCERBOY