Inevitable

[Aurea]

Is it because dying is inevitable, that we should learn to deal with it and move on with our lives? I know this is a depressing topic, but my dad is ill and he thinks he’s gonna die. I have always never thought about my parents dying, it’s just unthinkable to me! Although I’ve dealt with death before in my life, it’s still hard to even think about. So, I guess I should ask, how best does one deal with “this”?

Aurea

[Mysty]

Dying is a natural cycle of life. We all have to deal with it one day whether it is ourselves or a loved one.

I wish I could give the advice that will make it easier for you to cope with death, but in the end we all have to deal
with the sense of loss and despair, but I can assure you that time will heal the wounds.

Make the time you have with your Dad count!

All the best.

[Scorpio]

We all have to die sometime, so the best we can hope for is to die knowing that we are loved and that we have left good memories that will live on joyously in the heart and minds of our loved ones into the foreseeable future after we're gone.

All the best with your dad.

[sheppy]

Dying is the final destination for this long journey we call life.. we all must go through it at some point...hopefully we treasure those people and moments that make the journey worth it...

hope he pulls through

[Aurea]

Thank u so much for the encouragment and kind words.... My dad will be hospitalised tomorrow. I'm still hoping for the best. Thank u again.

Aurea

[lexbarker]

Sorry to hear that. If you get on to a hospice worker he/she may be able to help you. Best to your old man.

[apple]

Aurea I pray you have strength at this time and that your dad pulls thru.

My gran is not well and it is expected that she pass anytime now, so although I am not looking forward to it, knowing that she is sick before hand gave me a little time to prepare myself mentally and emotionally for what you already called...inevitable.

[KFCSpicy]

Aurea,

Death usually brings us closer to asking poignant questions about life...but if you can just remember that death is nothing but transition, it's the how you go out that bothers most people. Your dad may be dying but at least he got the opp to tie up most loose ends, say goodbye to loved ones and to contemplate. My 5 year old sister didnt have that luxury.

Just think of it as ok Daddy I will be losing you but I know where yuh going yuh safe like selassie eye brief case and no more stress, drama or sickness will ever worry yuh again. Mourn him but also rejoice the good bits. Never lose sight of the good things that came about from your dad being here. Tell him how much u love him now doh wait. Be honest about how yuh feel and that may also help ease the heartache when and if the time comes.

Wish you all the best in coping with this as there is no one way to cope with grief.

[vaio]

Aurea... i know how you feel...my mom is not well too, just got out of the hospital and the thought of something happening to her..well i dunno what i will do, i guess thats why i call her all the time and go to see her everytime i get so...if and when something happens i'd have no regret...

hang it there chica and hope your dad pulls through

[Aurea]

I don't know why the above post was repeated - sorry about that. Don't know what happened.
Aurea

[Aurea]

Thank u all so much, u have no idea how ur kind words have affected me today. The doctors want to do a whole lot of test on my dad still, they aren't sure why he's having these chest pains - horrible to see. My dad looks so frail..... it's damn sacry. I juts don't want to let go of my dad, I can't let go. I know I'm being selfish - but I can't help it. I just don't want him to die.

Aurea

[Mivo]

For some the Inevitable comes unexpectedly where the family is not prepared..I am assisting a family who is going thru this which is not easy

[Mivo]

Aurea hang in there and keep hope alive