Have You Ever Been in Love...

[Scorpio]

.....with someone with extremly low self esteem ?

Please share any experience you've had with this bec I have this theory that someone with low self esteem will usually reject (or have trouble accepting & be very uncomfortable with) anyone who falls in love with them.

(disclaimer: this is not about me)

[Solachica]

The one with the low self esteem was me at one point in time.
I always told him tht if he ever found anything better he was free to go becos I wud not keep him back etc.
Atleast for me your theory was right on.

[sapodila]

.....with someone with extremly low self esteem ?

Please share any experience you've had with this bec I have this theory that someone with low self esteem will usually reject (or have trouble accepting & be very uncomfortable with) anyone who falls in love with them.

(disclaimer: this is not about me)
Yuh ask the question and yuh answer it too..........so so wise..........don't stick around for what coming next folks........get out of such unhealthy relationships .........fast.

[dhal]

i cant so that nah...i need yuh to have a lil fire in yuh belly...yuh need to not shrivel up an die, i need yuh to fight an doh jus give up...

havin a relationship with someone with low self esteem cant b healthy...cuz u would always have ur way and what on earth would sex be like??? :shock:

[Scorpio]

I don't necessarily mean being in a relationship with the person here, I mean being in love with a person, letting the person know and being rejected by the person, simply bec the person feels he/she is not good enough for you (person will probably not say that is the reason)

Now, you might not realise at the time that that is the reason for the rejection, but sometimes, low self esteem is the big hairy monster in the room that nobody sees.

[vaio]

low self esteem is a big issue in a person's life, i've been in that kind of position and i was able to talk to the person and encourage them to get help and find out the root cause for having the problem and finding ways to deal with it.

A person with low self esteem is someone who may need help and havin friends who would enocurage them positively can really help

[strombo23]

back in meh seconday school days, they had this girl i had real like. lets call her Sasha. she had like meh too an we does get along real good. but when ever i would compliment her on how i like it when yuh have yuh hear so, or how she skin feelin real nice n soft or she lookin real cutie cutie today, she would immedieatly dispell it. on the spot. like she didn't believe me and i was just saying such things for saying so sake. well...dat association didnt last long. I felt as if i was not being take seriously nah and it was hard to make progress with her casue compliments does build up d chain up.

[Mysty]

I could have sworn I posted here before..... anyway.

I prefer not to get involve with someone with low self esteem. That is too much hard "wuk" and

patience, and if it does not work out, the break-up could do more harm to the person with low self esteem.

I always think that people need to find themselves before they could have a meaningful relationship with another.

[serenity]

Firstly, good topic Scorpio. And no, I havent been in that situation.

But I think another issue that comes up in these type of relationships is that the person with the low self esteem tend to view the person that loves them as someone who must be flawed too...its like u have to be crazy if u actually in love with me kinda thing and on that basis reject them.

[Scorpio]

^^ That's an interesting take on this, Serenity. I never thought about it like that, but you could have something there ...

[sheppy]

This is a good topic.!

Its difficult to be in love with a person with low self esteem..because they don't know how to love back...
You must first be able to love yourself before anyone else can love you....
is not really about getting your own way cuz you can run all over a person with low self esteem...but a number of issues arise..

people with low self esteem don't feel as though they should be loved..so something must be wrong with the other person for loving the 'unloveable'
quite easily..low self esteem can decend into depression (or depression may cause low self esteem) and the person may become unresponsive, introverted, and when confronted, quite often will threaten " well why do u want to be with me anyway" or " well maybe we should break up then" as they do not want the burden of another person's feelings when their own are already overwhelming.

[shotta]

No, but that would be seriously depressing and uncomfortable :/ wierd